Advice from the best bloggers EVER

Aug 10, 2005


Soooooooooooo, as it turns out.. I will have this house.  Or, rather, I want to try to have it because y’all love it as much (or more, if that’s possible) than I do and let’s just be honest that we know a good thing when we see it.

The only trouble is that Mr. Flinger comes from a LONG LINE of “moving sucks” and “I don’t care if this house blows, I’m stayin’ put” and the women have to kick their asses into shape and make them move.  (I come from a long line of women doing all the initiating of moving, so it works out well. Mostly.)

So, I’m willing to buy this house because I love it. Like the true engineer that he is, we don’t have the adequate spreadsheets/etc. to base our decision on. If there’s not a graph, it’s not a good idea. I, on the other hand, go with instinct and spontaneous feelings and .. let’s face it.. I’m usually right.

So, y’all.. we (I) need help. What do I do? We want to sell without a Realtor. And buy. How do I do this?! I’m scare and don’t know where to start but I’m doing some research and if I can do it, then Mr. Flinger will tag along and, to quote, “move his share of boxes.”

This is the point in the blog where I say WOMEN KICK ASS and WE DO IT ALL.. and I’m GLAD I’M A WOMEN all in caps because y’all.. it’s true.


  1. Leslie, Go after it girl! If you wan’t something bad enough, you can make it happen!

    By kelli on 2005 08 10

  2. I agree with Kelli, go for it.  Although, good luck doing it all by yourself.  Our neighbors sold their house by themselves and they did great.  It did take longer than they wanted though.  (an extra month) If you want to sell and buy, you will probably have to move fast.  Keep us posted and let Mr. Stay put Flinger know that you have a gangster of gals here who are ready to boot his butt out the door so you can get the house that you and LB want.  LOL

    By Traci on 2005 08 10

  3. Get the sign in your yard ASAP.  Google, how to sell your home (Ie: decorations, things to do to make it look better, etc)  Call the people selling the house, go look at the house, make a “contingent offer” on the house.  An offer that is contingent upon the sale of your current house.  If you don’t get any feelers on your house after you take the necesary steps (sign, newspaper, fliers, potential open house on your own) you may need a realtor.  Mmmmm ‘k?

    By RB on 2005 08 10

  4. Yeah, what R.belle said, only she said it better than I would have!  Good luck!!

    By Holly on 2005 08 10

  5. Also, on the buying house front.. (with or without a Realtor)... go get preapproved for your mortgage ASAP. It makes you more attractive to the sellers if there are competing contracts AND it just simplifies things inthe long run because you know what you can afford and what to expect as far as a payment goes.  OH, except they will always tell you you can afford like 100K more than you actually CAN. (unless you want to live on hotdogs and mac and cheese for the next 30 years)


    What RBelle said to is true… if you don’t get any bites during the first few visits while you have your house FSBO, get a Realtor. If a house sits on the market too long (especially these days), buyers start to wonder what’s wrong with it and sometimes won’t even bother looking at it.

    TiVO shows like Movin’ Up and Sell That House. (GREAT ideas on there)

    By Erin on 2005 08 11

  6. We just sold our house with a realtor, and bought a new house that was FSBO.  I know the FSBO couple got standard forms at Office Max, but we ended up using the WA state forms that all realtors use (I found them online as a pdf).  We made our purchase contingent on the inspection and upon the appraisal.

    You can contact a realtor and have them run you a free market analysis, which will show what similar size/age houses are going for in your area.  This will help you price your home.  You can also add your home listing to the MLS (Multiple listing service) which means it comes up when people/realtors search online.  (Not sure of cost for FSBO).

    The tricky part is closing on both houses at the same time.  For example, we close on our house Aug 25 and have the 3 days to be out and close on new house on 26th with possesion that evening (so we have somewhere to move to!)

    We also had a realtor come over before we were ready to list to tell us what to fix up,etc.  You should be able to do this w/o obligation to using them later.
    It’s an exciting/scary process.  I hope you escape having to replace your roof! (unlike us)  HTH!

    By Amy_M on 2005 08 11

  7. um, why don’t you want to hire a realtor? Just seems like an easier way to go, especially since they have the MLS and can run some comparable homes in your neighborhood pricewise so that you can determine how much to sell your own home for, without over or undershooting it. I’m all for do-it-yourself projects but hail, buying and selling homes is a big deal.

    By texasbelle on 2005 08 11

  8. Realtor fees here are insane (like 20% on the SALE price of the home). Seller pay it not the buyers, so you can make more then just the equity.

    Also a suggestion (don’t know if you have this problem or not) but declutter your house a time. Kitchen counters, tops of dressers, etc. Makes a HUGE difference when people come to look.

    When we sell we will need a semi just to declutter. It is so bad. I can’t wait for you! Good luck, I love the house!

    By Nicole on 2005 08 11

  9. Please…don’t get me started about moving and house hunting.  I’m in the same boat as you: married to an engineer who hates to move or search for housing.  And it’s his job that moved us here!  Sheesh!

    By Annie De on 2005 08 11

  10. *le sigh* We don’t have to worry about selling a house, just finding one to buy that a)isn’t complete shit and b)we can afford.

    Good luck to you Mrs. Flinger we all need it when it comes to home selling/buying.

    By Sarah on 2005 08 11

  11. I have no advice on sellign without a relator. We did all of ours through one. So if you need advice there let me know LOL. I love love love love the house though. I am jealous. My sister just moved into one that looks so similar to that. I cry when I go over because I want new flooring. Anyway what is up with you not moving to Utah anyway? Come on I need friends :(
    Good luck!

    By Rachael on 2005 08 12