Friendships

01/Apr/2008

I’m listening to these girls chat at the coffee house. They must be young, just out of college or fifth year seniors. They splatter the word “like” over their conversation the way we used aquanet in the 80’s over our bangs. It’s obvious one girl is more in to the other. The one with the boobs, she’s the one carrying the conversation. She also slaughters low cut like a hungry butcher. The boobs, they pour out in overflowing pale whiteness.

I’m practically blinded.

The other girls is sensibly dressed, obviously the more mature of the pair, conservative but hip. She’s sitting back, leaning on her left arm while her friend leans forward almost throwing her words at her.

Being young is terribly awkward, isn’t it?

It makes me think of friendships you tried so hard to hold on to. People who wanted to hang out with, to share stories with. People you maybe had something in common but then became on the fringe of their life. It happens to everyone, it’s happened to you. It happens in blogworld and in realworld and in life in general. Your Way Totally BFF Like OMG Totally might move to, say, Ohio and marry someone she met on the Internet and you’ll be left wondering what ever happened to so-and-so and remember-when? Or the person who’s wedding you were in four years ago that you lost touch with but glance every so often in the peripheral of life. These girls are new in life, barely 21, with boyfriends and no children. It’s a Tuesday at 3pm and they’re in a coffee shop talking about college courses. They’re on Spring break. They have a Spring Break.

Remember Spring Breaks?

They may stay friends for a few years more. They may be in each others wedding, wearing fancy low-cut dresses and dancing in nylons. They may send a Christmas card once a year and marvel at the children who grow like weeds.

And then they’ll be left telling their husbands about this friend they used to have back in 2008… remember her? What was her name?

Remember anyone like that in your life? I do.

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Comments

  1. yes, yes, YES!
    Great post, Leslie.
    Oh and by the way, we DO need to get together for drinks, even though I’m a total flake…!

    By bananas on 2008 04 01

  2. Like, OMG! Like, totally! Like I can sooooo totally relate to that! Like OMG!

    By themommykelly on 2008 04 01

  3. Ohio and marry someone she met on the Internet

    ok my ears are burning. or perhaps that is a total coincidence
    raspberry

    By Kate Ruff on 2008 04 01

  4. Funny, I was just thinking about trying to dig up a few old acquaintances tonight.

    By laura on 2008 04 01

  5. Yep.  Absolutely.  And I thinking about looking them up and am afraid they wouldn’t remember me.

    By Ree on 2008 04 01

  6. I have several people in my life like that.  People I just *knew* I would be friends with forever.  Now I don’t even know how to get in touch with them. 

    But, it’s probably just as well anyway, because really, what would I even say?

    By Beth_C on 2008 04 01

  7. Oh, yes, I remember those friendships.  I mourn those friendships sometimes.  It’s so much harder to connect with people now in the same way we did when we were 20.

    By LifeAsIKnowIt on 2008 04 01

  8. LIKE OMG I TOTALLY remember being like that. Still are when I’m LIKE TOTALLY DRUNK N” STUFF. Remember Sara Jo? She got married and moved to colorado…lost her email…crap. I have NO way of getting to her. LIKE BUMMER!!!

    By sister flinger on 2008 04 01

  9. Dude, could you like have hit the nail any more dead on in the center?
    *snicker*

    I occasionally e-mail 2 of my 8 bridesmaids.
    I remember those friendships and I smile at them. I get tugs on my heartstrings, but then I look at the friends I have now and my heart does flip flops, they are so much more real and substantial.
    Great post sweets.

    By rachel on 2008 04 01

  10. I think we all do. Great post.

    By RB on 2008 04 01

  11. Yes, we must all have friends like that. I was, truly, thinking of a couple “really good friends” I had in college just yesterday. For the life of me I can’t remember their names. Who would have thought I would have forgotten them? Dang, makes me wonder who has forgotten my name! But I do hope they recall my face with good memories.
    Thankfully, I remember yours (ROFL).

    By hilary on 2008 04 02

  12. Like, for real! 

    Cool beans post!

    By Queen of Shake Shake on 2008 04 02

  13. I marvel at this phenomenon.  It does happen to everyone.  For me though, it turned out that I lost contact with my closest friends from high school for awhile, but now we have all re-connected, and realized that we have the only TRUE friendships any of us have experienced in our 43 years.  They’ve always been there for me, and I could always pick up the phone, even during the times we weren’t really “in contact.”

    I think where you live has a lot to do with it too, or where you work.  Some of the people I’ve been so close to sort of “fell away” when I moved or quit my job, etc.  I guess we’re just fickle creatures!!!  smile

    By Katie Kat on 2008 04 02

  14. I so can identify with this…

    What is Spring Break again? Oh, hell what is a BREAK for that matter?

    Its funny that my closest friend is the one that I have had since I was 13. And while we see each other like once a year…its like we never left each other.

    That is the kind of friend that I want to keep in my life.

    Not what’s her name with the pasty white boobs and the loud mouth who stole my boyfriend in college.

    By Faith on 2008 04 02

  15. Um. Yep.

    By MammaLoves on 2008 04 02

  16. Great post!  And can so totally, like, relate.  smile

    By Suburban Mum on 2008 04 02

  17. i fucking want spring break. WHY DON’T OUR JOBS GIVE US SPRING BREAK!?!??!  ugh.
    i think growing up, you kind of know who is going to be in your life forever-  or at least you think you know.  i haven’t been surprised really by who is gone and who is still here when it comes to my friendships…  smile

    By jennster on 2008 04 02

  18. Great post as usual… I am giving you an award if you want to pop by my blog and pick it up!
    Jen R

    By Jen Rizzo on 2008 04 02

  19. I can honestly and sadly say that I never had friendships like that.  I’m not very good at making friends in the beginning, and when I do, they tend to be the ones that stick.  My best friends are spread all over the country, now, but we keep in touch by phone, e-mail, Facebook (how I love thee).

    By Mrs. Mustard on 2008 04 03

  20. I have so many friends like that!  It’s such a sad thing… esp the ones that I tried to make an effort with and they just didn’t reciprocate.

    By Holly on 2008 04 03