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May, 10, 2009

Happy (ish) Mother’s Day!

I’m honored to be part of Mothers Day Rally For Moms Mental Health” today. This is my fourth mother’s day. The fourth year I’ve been figuring out how to be a mom, who I am as a mom, and what the hell got me here.

As someone who blogged her way through depression with her first child, the decision to stop medication during the pregnancy of her second, and the subsequent love and disgusting mush in a complete turn of events after the birth of her second, I’m honored you are here. I’m honored to be part of a diverse group of woman standing up and calling out that IT IS OK.

It is ok if it sucks.
It is ok if you cry.
It is ok if you aren’t sure what the hell you’re doing.
It is ok if you can’t nurse.
It is ok if you hate people that tell you your child is a joy when you are just SO MOTHER EFFING TIRED.
It is ok if you seek help.
It is ok if you decide to take medication.
It is ok if it takes you three months to honestly say you love your baby.
It is ok.

I know. Because I am ok.

It doesn’t last forever, the fear and pain and sadness. You won’t always roll the word “mom” around in your head like it’s someone else and not you. You won’t always sit and stare at your child and think, “Where did you come from?”

Or you might, but you’ll also stroke her cheek and thank god she is there.

One day you’ll realize you’re the mom. THE MOM.

And that is OK. Turns out? You’re pretty good at it after all.

(Please go take part Mothers Day Rally For Moms Mental Health”. Happy Mother’s Day. Even if you don’t feel so happy today? It is ok.)

May, 10, 2009 Filed in: Family Life • Read the Archives

Comments

Its belated, but Happy Mother's Day to you!
Posted by Colleen - Mommy Always Wins on 2009-05-15 21:36:10 Happy Blog Hopping. :)
Posted by Wikiprostitute on 2009-05-15 19:57:53 I hope a lot of fathers read this, too. They need to know these things about you moms as much as you do...
Posted by Scott on 2009-05-13 11:31:40 Great post. I've been there before & I think its really important to remember what it was like & to be there to let other women who are there know that it's ok.
Posted by queenofhaddock on 2009-05-11 11:16:33 Thank you for this!
Posted by syd on 2009-05-11 07:40:54 Happy mother's day! Thanks for this very important post.
Posted by LauraC on 2009-05-11 06:19:57 Amen.
Posted by jennyonthespot on 2009-05-10 22:46:47 I love this post. Its nice to know that everything isn't all sunshine and rainbows all that time and that it's OK.
Posted by Jen on 2009-05-10 18:34:24 Thank you for this! I have often felt like things aren't OK. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who has felt like that. Happy Mother' Day!
Posted by Kris on 2009-05-10 13:03:06 Love the way you wrote that... Happy Mothers Day to you too :)
Posted by Jeanette on 2009-05-10 12:47:52

Jeanette

J05/10/2009

Love the way you wrote that… Happy Mothers Day to you too
Kris

J05/10/2009

Thank you for this! I have often felt like things aren’t OK. I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who has felt like that. Happy Mother’ Day!
Jen

J05/10/2009

I love this post. Its nice to know that everything isn’t all sunshine and rainbows all that time and that it’s OK.
jennyonthespot

J05/10/2009

Amen.
LauraC

J05/11/2009

Happy mother’s day! Thanks for this very important post.
syd

J05/11/2009

Thank you for this!
queenofhaddock

J05/11/2009

Great post. I’ve been there before &
I think its really important to remember what it was like & to be there to let other women who are there know that it’s ok.
Scott

J05/13/2009

I hope a lot of fathers read this, too. They need to know these things about you moms as much as you do…
Wikiprostitute

J05/15/2009

Happy Blog Hopping.
Colleen - Mommy Always Wins

J05/15/2009

Its belated, but Happy Mother’s Day to you!