This makes me cry a little because I am standing across from a widening gap from my 10 yr old daughter and I want the type of relationship with her that I never had with my own mother. But how do we get there? My 10 yr old has so much spirit and I fear that I spend part of every day breaking that sprirt. But I don’t want to do that. I want to embrace it. But I also don’t like spending my days being blamed for the world ending just because she can’t find a fucking pair of socks in her mess of a room or has now decided that the black velvet dress (that I paid FULL FUCKING price for 3 days ago) is no longer acceptable to wear tomorrow for a school photo and she now wants to wear black velvet pants and a white blouse. But I have to go to work and don’t have all day to spend shopping for a SECOND FUCKING outfit. Sorry , where was I? Oh yes. I’m right there with you and if anyone has the answer, will it work for me and my 10 yr old daughter?