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Making the call for an IUD at 4:30 AM
Baby O has slept through the night four times in nearly six months. The man is assuring his status as a last child. He’s assuring his status as “sex killer.” He’s coming dangerously close to pissing me off. At some point you have to think to yourself:
“What the fuck did we do?”
Don’t get me wrong here. I love my son. He’s singlehandedly turned me in to an ooey-gooey baby person. He’s made me fall in love with a helpless, tiny being that can do nothing more than eat/poop/sleep/scream. The smiles, laughes and talks now are all bonus to me. I’d love him as a blob.
I’d love him more if he slept.
I’m so fucking tired, Internet. I’m tired, I’m cranky, I’m sick of being sick. Not sleeping combined with germs “out there” make for a sick Flinger Family. I’m tired of it. I’m sick of it.
I just want to fucking sleeeeeeeeeeeppppppppppppp.
Fuck the “IUD/NO IUD” debate. I’m going in. If all it means is five years of no chance of “oooops!” then I’m in.
Well, if we ever have sex again.
It’s a good thing he’s so cute.
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It is a very good thing he is so adorable.
I’m sending sleep vibes to Baby O.
I feel your pain. We are at 10 months and not thru the night. Our 2nd slept like a dream too, I don’t know what happended with this one.
Tubal litigation is highly recommended, you’ll never look back.
He’ll sleep someday.
Remember my oft-repeated tagline? “If sleep deprivation is an effective form of torture, than the CIA should seriously consider employing my children.”
THIS is why I had a tubal ligation with my last. Sometimes I get the yen for another and so does my husband but then we stop and say THANK GOD we did the tubal because seriously if we had not made it a final decision we would probably be on our FIFTH child by now. NOT our FOURTH. OUR FIFTH. We realized we were in over our heads and that we really value our sleep and want to return to it someday. So we did it. No more kids for us, so that we can be the best parents we can (and not strangle the little buggers in a sleep-deprived bout of insanity) to the ones we already have and love.
That sounds so familiar. Distant now, but yet, familiar.
We know were done at two kids so we went the permanent route of no-more-baby-ness. My logic was this: I’m fertile once a month. Mark? Fertile all the damn time. So we got him fixed. Awesome.
He truly is adorable.
So glad I’m ‘fixed’.
And yes, he is indeed way cute.
That was the point when I decided that maybe crying it out was ok!
He is too cute, and sex will return, maybe by his 5th birthday!!
he is cute!
Oh I’m so glad someone else isn’t sleeping. Sorry for you, happy for me. I think mine has slept through maybe once? The worst is when they are cute at 2 am.
My son was like that. I rocked the snot outta him for over a year. I also managed to give birth to 2 more rugrats, who ALSO took months to sleep thru.
I’m still here. And my kids now sleep thru. But I remember the long nightssssssssssss….....
XOXO
That is four times more than us. I, too, am very very tired.
Re: IUD. I had one prior to my current pregnancy. I LOVED it.
They are the most popular form of birth control worldwide and the first or second most popular among female ob/gyns.
Mirena is hormonal, ParaGuard is not. Mirena last 5 years, ParaGuard for 10.
I saw some comments on your previous post that make the IUD sound very, very scary. And they can be but probably not for you.
First, uterine perforations are rare. The old IUDs in the 70s (namely the Dalkon Shield) caused all sort of problems but it had a very different shape and string than current IUDs.
Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) is unlikely if you are monogamous. Earlier IUDs had a string that basically wicked whatever was in your vagina into your uterus—v.v. bad if you have a lot of sexual partners with whom you don’t use a condom. But, today’s IUDs have changed the string. And, if you’ve only got one partner, the risk of PID is quite low.
I had a diaphragm for a while but it gave me UTIs. You might want to try one if you’re not prone but keep in mind that you’ll need a refitting if you gain/lose more than 10 lbs. The Lea’s Shield (a cervical cap previously only available in Canada) and spermicide might be a good option for you.
I work in women’s health (am NOT a doctor, just a policy person) so I spend a lot of time researching birth control. Please email me if you want more information on my experience with Mirena.
My daughter slept (or rather, didn’t sleep) the same way for the first 8 months or so of her life. And yes, it’s a big part of why I decided that we were all done thank you very much after her. I need my sleep!
Your little guy sure is a cutie though. Almost makes me want another one. Almost.
ooh the sleep issues I hate the sleep issues!!
Yeah for the IUD I was scared to death to get mine put in but it is the best thing yet.
And I love this logic: “I?m fertile once a month. Mark? Fertile all the damn time. So we got him fixed”
That is so our idea also; though we are giving ourselves the 5 years just in case we want another one option first. Onces this IUD is out the hubby gets snipped. Besides after Michelle’s comment on snipping a while back how could my hubby resist…lol. He is all for the Dr. Snip dot com pocket knife. LOL.
So darn adorable! If it’s any consolation my six month old isn’t sleeping through the night either. He has and he can but he won’t at this point. Ferber? Weisbluth? Coffee?
I have nothing but ridicule for you!
HAHAHAHA!
What is sleep?! What is this “through the night” you speak of?
We are on month 14. Suck it up, woman!
(Of course, I have nothing else to do with my days but try to nap when she naps; I don’t have to hold down another job or maintain coherent thought. You rule.)
Yay for IUD’s. Just got mine 4 weeks ago which means I’m in the all clear for spontaneous, raunchy sex.
Unfortunately my child doesn’t sleep either and I’m too damn tired to screw.
Good luck.
That no sleep stage is hell on earth. Literally. I remember.
Yes. Hubby will be fixed once our oops (#3) is born. I don’t think I could do an IUD - my girly parts are way to sensitive to everything.
I’m with you on the no sleeping. The boy (also 5 months) had a solid week of sleeping through the night about a month ago. I thought we were golden, and then he got a cold and has not done it since. That week was heaven though! I feel your pain, and let’s just keep reminding ourselves that they’ll do it eventually. right?
Bridget has slept through the night once. She will be 2.5 in January.
She’s our third. And our last.
My husband got a vasectomy.
I.AM.DONE!!!
Here I am thinking “fucking hell, what’s she bitching about? I’ve not even gotten four nights.”
to top off, little boy fell asleep in his crib at 623 last night. clothes were tossed aside with abandon, stupid husband wanted foreplay. Idiot. Baby woke up. I threw toys in the crib, wound up the mobile and discovered that we can get biz done before “Talk with the animals” finishes playing.
Contemplating changing his damn name to Cock Block.
Would so love to blog this but hubs would be unamused. So I have highjacked your comments for my tale of woe.
Be glad he’s so cute!
You’re making me so happy I don’t have a new baby right now. These days if I stay up with one of the girls when they’re sick I wonder how the hell I made it the first year with them.
zzzzzzzz
Wait, sex RETURNS??! This is news to me. Heh. Seriously, once I got knocked up again, the action ‘round these parts has been noticeably absent…. and that’s putting it politely. :p
He IS adorable.
And your post further confirms that my husband having a “V” is the smartest thing we ever did
I loved my Mirena the 2+ years that it was in. After we pop this kid out I am going to get another one.
Tubals and the big V just seem far too final for us. With the IUD I didn’t have the weight gain I got with the pill and I didn’t have to remember to put it in. Biggest plus? I didn’t get a period. Which made that stop at Sam’s club and buying 350 million tampons a total waste.
Having it put in wasn’t the most comfortable thing but it was quick. Having it taken out was very easy.
I can’t think of anything funny to add in here. I am detoxing from caffeine and it totally sucks. Yay for IUDs and sex! Ooh I can have sex now that I am knocked up. What am I doing on the internets?
You pretty much summed up every fear I have about having another baby. ACK.
Our second was from the excorsist with his constant vomiting (WITH NO LAUNDRY IN OUR APARTMENT) and didn’t sleep until he was almost 2. I wanted to freaking DIE.
GOOD thing they are cute, I agree.
Hugs.
Actually, screw the hugs: SLEEP,CHOCOLATE, CHAMPAGNE AND HOT SEX. In that order.
You inspired me to post about how to get babies to sleep! If you want to see such nonsense….
http://fussypants.typepad.com/whatsmartmommiesknow/2007/11/how-to-get-your.html
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Thanks for the bloggy contest support & love!
Oh my… the face! He really is a cutie and I’m sure that goes a LONG way in keeping you from killing him… errrr, I mean losing your patience. BUT… (and it’s a big but… ha!) there is something psychologically devastating about not getting enough sleep. And I don’t mean just in the opinion of parents everywhere. It’s an actual fact. You need 5 hours of UNINTERRUPTED sleep at night to reset your internal thingymabobbers that make you not take a high powered rifle to the tallest point in town and start picking off people.
If AT ALL possible, trade nights with the hubby so that you get some true sleep and you can get your sanity back! That’s my advice anyhow. (I’d hold off on the high powered rifle thing until after you see if this idea works…)
Hang in there! What can I say?! It seems like it took years and years for #2 to “sleep through the night”... Even now at 5 he wakes us up with “I had a scary dweam” in the middle of the night. AGH.
Baby O is showing promise, though, as you already have had FOUR nights by six months!! That is good, even if it doesn’t feel like it!
My kids don’t usually bother getting up in the night…because they know that NO ONE’S COMING! Usually, they can talk themselves into going back to sleep. USUALLY. Plus, being a lazy mommy REALLY helps!
I hope you get some sleep soon. Are you taking any vitamins?
Did you hear about the baby born with the IUD in its hand?
UGH, Leann! http://www.chebucto.ns.ca/Health/TeenHealth/HSex/bcmisiud.html
I did some searching on the whole IUD/Pregnancy thing and apparently it’s pretty COMMON?! WHAT?!
My god, the best birth control is our current method, apparently. Eff…
I am so sorry! See, at least the baby is doing you a FAVOR!!!! There is a method to his madness!!!
Ok, don’t freak out or anything, but our son, 14 months old, has slept through the night 4 times. 4 times. Total.
This week, he’s averaging waking about 3 times a night.
I am seriously hoping that baby #2 sleeps like a rock.
Oh, I SOOOOOOO understand. For the 1st 9 months of J’s life, I was a walking zombie. His sleep patterns were constantly changing….I’d get used to a 10 PM and 4 AM wake up call and then he’d switch to something new! AUGH! When he started to sleep through the night last week, I didn’t hold my breath. I wondered if it would stick….I didnt’ want to get my hopes up. It has stuck for now *knock on wood*. But the problem is, a week of “sleeping through the night” does not make up for 9 ****ing months of sleep deprevation! Where’s the coffee…
I’ve been there. OMG! Have I ever been there! Son is a month away from his second birthday and still gets into his occasional sleep jags. My only out is that he insists on his daddy to hold him and settle him. There’s pain in that rejection, but the flip side is that I can often get back to sleep sooner than Husband. Unless, of course, Son ends up in our bed out of Husband’s desperation. Then the fact that he is the Chosen One, and not I, is a pain in the arse. You see, Husband always gets the snuggles at the head end, and I get the kicks in the ribs and boobs and face from the feet end all night long.
You could send Mr. Flinger in for a snippy snippy, ya know. (Are you actually considering having more after five more years when the IUD comes out? Just checking)
May you enjoy a full night’s sleep tonight!
In the wee hours I send you a mental “cheers” as Shea sleeps but still wakes just enough so I never have those precious 5 hrs in a row. Also - he will not nap in his crib. I get nothing done during the day because he’s either napping on me or near me. My house resembles a “before” picture for that Home Makeover show. And even though he goes to bed at 8pm, I am too pooped to do a thing other than stare at the tv or computer. In fact I need to go to bed now. Goodnight.
i hear ya, leslie. feel ya, even. we’re going on 9 months now of the 2-3 tiems a night wake ups. hoo….