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I?m struggling with change, transition and growth. There are times in my life I am happy and would not be anywhere else. Then, there are times I?m saddened by the inevitable distance that time brings to friendship, naive promises and childish expectations.
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Well said, Leslie. It’s so easy to get distracted by our own daily activities that we sometimes forget to look beyond ourselves and acknowledge and embrace those around us. I don’t think it’s foolish to believe that friendships can last the time of time…that’s what true friendship is all about.
I really think about this a lot. We have moved from house to house, state to state, often in the last several years. Each time, I tried to hard to hold onto friends, and soon their “real life” (have a new baby, have to travel for work, etc.) crept in, making them return less calls, write less e-mails. Next thing you know, years go by.
Funny thing about blogging, though—I ran into 2 very old friends who found my blog and reconnected.
So, in a way, it is like old-fashioned letter-writing all over again.
Wow! So true. I’ve wondered about this myself. In my group of friends from school, I was the first to get married, have kids, buy a house, etc. Once those life changing things happen its hard to find common ground. Priorities change and mine wasn’t to see how drunk I could get without puking anymore.
Growing up is hard to do!
So nicely said Les. I still recall the times in which all I wanted to do was remain a child so that I could keep my close connections with my parents and friends and live under a free and careless assumption of what adult life was really like. At times I want to go back!
I am constantly trying to remind myself to live in the moment and utilize time to my advantage! I think to myself, am I looking at the world the right way or am I too focused on the objective at hand?
As for friendships, I don’t have many, but the few that I do have I value! You have to stay connected with people who value friendships the same way you do!
::Big hug::
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. I think that when you get older and your priorities change your life takes on this certain shape, and sometimes you just can’t relate to the people you used to be friends with. I think letting those people go opens up space for new friendships with people that you have more in common with. The special friendships are those that stand the test of time, no matter what direction your lives take.
I agree with you *so much* about being caught up in our own lives and missing out on what’s happening with our friends. That’s something I worry about a lot.
Very well said. The whole friendship topic saddens me when I think about it! I admit I didn’t do my part to keep up some friendships, and I really regret it now. Not that they couldn’t have done their part, though! It takes two afterall. Anyhow, it is WORK to make and keep friends. Mostly it’s well worth it, but is gets discouraging to put in that much “work” and see it go down the drain for whatever reason.
Right there with you. I’ve lost several friends over the years for various reasons. But I think one of the most common reasons is loosing common ground. I don’t want to grow up. I don’t I don’t I don’t. LOL, yet I really like the age I am now. I don’t think your foolish for wanting all the promises of the past to remain true. It would be wonderful.