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  • May 25, 2008

    If you figure out the answer let me know. She is a highly emotional girl who craves constant attention. She is stubborn and feisty just like me. We butt heads regularly. I suspect part of it is a normal part of mother-daughter economics. Implementing copious amounts of deep breathing, that’s as far as I have gotten.

  • May 25, 2008

    Nods head knowingly

    been there six trillion times

  • May 25, 2008

    I’ve been there.  It’s so easy to get angry…but it’s much easier to be reminded why we shouldn’t be.  I hope we ALL remember tomorrow.

  • May 25, 2008

    I can learn from this too when my son does the same kind of thing.  I get so annoyed and easily angered and throw out a heavy sigh or (gasp) even a yell every now and then.  He’s a little man, he should be strong and brave and nut up already, right?  Ummm, he’s 3; I tell myself this in the “non-heat-of-the-moment-times” when it resonates more and makes so much more sense to me than it does when I am frustrated.  He’s a small boy, not a viking.  I think back to my childhood- I was “that girl” who BEGGED her mom (through tears and anxiety-induced stomach issues) to come and eat lunch with her… IN GRADE SCHOOL.  True story.  I also resented my 3rd grade teacher, Mrs. Evans, for never believing me and for not helping me through my stressful times away from my mom.  The fact that I still remember HER name and face vividly (when all my other teachers sort of blur into the past), makes me wonder if I still don’t hold a tiny tiny seed of resentment towards her even today.  She could have helped me through it, but instead she left me to suffer alone until my mom was finally called to the rescue.  My mom sat with me at lunch and we talked and once I was “replenished” she left and I went about my school day.  Or when I couldn’t even handle spending the night at my best friend’s house at the age of 10, and her parents had to call mine to come and get me at half past midnight one time when my attempt to be brave and give it a try failed miserably.  But, you know what…my mom always came.  She always stopped what she was doing and headed down to the school or my friend’s house, or where ever I was…again.  She hugged me and I melted into her feeling relief wash over me.  This happened more often than I’d really like to admit, now in my adulthood.  But, thinking back on my younger years, that is what I remember most ...my mom, always being there.  Without question, no matter what.  I am sure this is what LB will remember too…you, being there for her…always.

  • Siri
    May 25, 2008

    WOW. This post just hit every fiber of my body in a way I was not expecting. I have the same issues in our house execept that my son is the oldest and daughter is the youngest and they do not share a room. BUT…this has opened my eyes to the fact that maybe my son does have anxiety issues that need to be addressed. Thank you for this.

  • May 25, 2008

    Yup. Been there. Had this same revelation and struggle with it daily. Thanks for the extra reminder.
    Hearts and all.

  • May 25, 2008

    I learend this lesson (yet again) just today.

  • May 25, 2008

    I myself have a three year old and this post touched me to the core.  You are so right.  We anger so quickly at their innocence.  How hard is it to lay/sit with them for 5 minutes?  Well, when the baby’s crying, the phones ringing and hubby can’t find clean socks it is hard.  You hit the nail right on the head though.  Awesome post.

  • May 25, 2008

    Right on, sister! I do that with my kids all the time.  Sometimes it is so hard to think of things from their point of view.  Great post!

  • May 25, 2008

    It so hard to remember that it’s “just 5 minutes” or “just one more time” or “just one more book”.  When I find myself getting annoyed or angry over this kind of stuff it is so hard to remember that Zoe is not always going to want me… not always going to cry for me… not always going to need me the way her little almost 3 year old self does.  I wish it was easier to just enjoy those minutes rather than get so annoyed.

  • May 25, 2008

    As I read this, I felt strangely like I’d written it. I’ve been there so many times. I’m still there sometimes, because my daughter is STILL there many times. She will be FIVE in August. *sigh*

  • May 25, 2008

    So sweet, the things we learn from our kids.  I have six- and each one of them has gone through a bedtime “phase.”  We read stories and they usually fall asleep while I’m reading.

    Have fun, the days might last forever but the years go by so fast.

  • May 25, 2008

    Sounds SO much like my daughter. Have you ever heard of or read “The Fussy Baby Book” by Dr. Sears? It is all about high-need babies and toddlers. We put off reading it for the longest time because I didn’t want to “label” our daughter, but once we were nearly bald with a few scruffy patches of wispy hairs left on our heads and ready at any moment to slay each other with a look or a sigh, because our daughter was SO clingy, SO demanding, SO emotional… We read it and wished we’d done so months earlier. It gave us a completely different perspective on her and helped us cope with her extremely high-need personality. It gave us the ability to see her, not her behavior, and eventually realize that, at least part of her behavior was caused by food allergies.

    We pull it out every couple of months and skim through it again to refocus. You can find many excerpts from the book on their website http://www.askdrsears.com under the Fussy Baby link, but the book is great to have, to mark up with frustrated lines and relieving circles and empowering exclamation points (most family and friends offered unsubtle and unsolicited “advice” that we were making her that way, but any parent of a high-need baby knows they are wired totally different and were that way even in the womb).

  • Amy
    May 25, 2008

    Another mom of a highly energetic, highly talkative, highly needy preschooler here…and I am re-learning how to be patient and more nurturing on a daily basis. Thanks for the reminder that those extra few minutes of snuggling together may have been the most important thing I did today!

  • May 26, 2008

    I feel the pain girl, I do. There are some days where I just crave those five minutes for me for a change. AND it always irks me that my three year old goes right down, without a flinch, on the rare occasions we have a sitter. Where is the logic in that??

    At least you know you are not alone!

  • May 26, 2008

    Thank y’all. I’m a little teary just reading your comments here. I appreciate the community.

    Michelle, I can TOTALLY appreciate your stress in grade school. We talked about that but I was the same way. So it’s no shock that we have kids like us, I guess. Except that I’m always shocked. It’s funny. Sortof. But your story of how you think of your mom as always just there for you is exactly what I want LB to remember. I think it means so much more than anything else you learned in life and how you remember and think of your mom even today. That is the type of memory I want to leave with her. So thank YOU for that reminder.

    Jenn, I’ll have to check that out. It sounds like something I’m sure I can use. I hesitate with the Dr. Sears books just because they made ME so anxious when my son was a preemie. But this sounds more helpful and practical. I’ll definitely go take a look.

    Mrs. Hannigan, thank you. Yes. The days last forever but the years fly by. Never a truer word spoken.

  • May 26, 2008

    You’ve been hanging out inside my head, no?

  • Erin
    May 26, 2008

    Couldn’t have said any of this better… beautifully put, sistah friend. smile

    This is why I tear up everytime I hear that cheesy country song “Let Them Be Little”...  (sniffle)

  • May 26, 2008

    That is so true. They days are long, but the nights are longer. ...clnn

  • Alison
    May 26, 2008

    Oh I have so been there…

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