Oct 01, 2005
I remember thinking I new what tired was. I remember complaining about being tired in high school. I’m a chick that loves her nine hours of sleep and boy-oh-boy what I cranky when I didn’t get it.
Then I had a baby. People would tell me when I was pregnant, “Sleep now, ‘cause you never will again.” Or they’d make comments like, “Oh, ya, you think it’s hard to sleep when you’re pregnant, try feeding the baby every three hours.” I thought they were rude. It was lost on me. See, I wasn’t asking them how rotten it is gonna get, I was saying that right now, I feel tired. That’s all. Just that this is what I’m going through, and compared to what I’ve had up until now, this is rough.
another timely post…
I hear about so many displaced by the hurricanes and I am so lucky to have a house of my own. But, I have had the hardest month in my entire life because of our old house (roof redone led to water damage in house, delayed closing a month, and buyers backed out of sale the day before closing…after $40,000 of repair work done to house!) Now we are working with a lawyer to get our earnest money back and we may have a lawsuit against our agent (who we found out from his assistant knew the roofer guy did quick-fix work). We are completely moved in to the new house. I have never been so frustrated, angry, and weepy in my life.
But, little things shine through - my daughter starting to say “hi mommy,” friends and family offering a listening ear and financial support, and a “us against the world” unity with my husband.
A few weeks ago, you asked the question, “Are you in the place where you want to be?” and I truly felt I was. Maybe still do? Not sure at the moment. I guess that’s life.
p.s. Must have been a long shower for all those thoughts!
By Amy_M on 2005 10 01
Hear Hear sista!
With me and my sis it is ALWAYS a competition. Why? Who knows. Growing up she was the “goody goody” perfect daughter. Me - young, rebelious, and full of life. Tables were turned at some point and now I have everything she wants and she has nothing (her choosing..nother story..) except for her 2 kids & hubby and all she does is complain. Yet she is still the “good one”, cuz I guess if you are financially stable in your life then you don’t need parents (OMG - nother story too!)
Me and G worked our asses off to get where we are today and are damn proud of it (my 4.0 GPA helps too ). I love what we have. And hey if you are going to complain about it to me cuz you want to, I will listen and throw in my 2 cents too. Not for competition, just cuz I know how ya feel!
Umm…sorry I got sidetracked there on my point!
By Nicole on 2005 10 01
another nice one. the sense of entitlement people nurture is such an ugly trait. it totally downplays the importance of self=-eliance and ambition and hard work. I’m sorry you and your Mom participate in something that so plainly bothers you. Talk to her about it. If she is anything like my Mom, you’ll have to keep talking about it until your head is ready to burst because she’ll forget or pretend to forget the conversation and lapse back into the intolerable habit. I think many of us struggle through variable amounts of guilt for the kind of life we lead, I’m not sure why exactly..societal pressures, who knows…but I do KNOW my sister is going to put the very same zap on my ass that yours did to you, and I’m not looking forward to it at all.
One of the main reasons I like you so much, Les, is because of how honest you are. It’s painful to admit such personal things in an open forum. You kick ass.
By texasbelle on 2005 10 02
Great thoughts all around!
By Holly on 2005 10 02
Wonderful post, just fabulous. So true, I even find myself qualifying everything lately, and I am driving myself insane. And, I hate it when my friends with only one child or no children feel that they have to qualify what they say to me, cause that is certainly not what I am all about. I think we can all get caught up in the one upmanship game. That game can be played no matter WHAT the situation. MY life is better, my life is worse, my huband makes the most money, my husband makes the least money, etc. Whats funny is that I find that happening more IRL than in OL. Me and all my BFFOL tend to help each other out and support each other. Its the real life friends that can rip you to shreds. How terrible is that observation?
By J.L. Dropout on 2005 10 03
Coming from a BFFOL, that’s not a sad observation at all. I’m just glad I tend to help more than oneup y’all.
By Mrs. Flinger on 2005 10 03
Very true Leslie, we’re only human. At least you admit it. We’ve all done this I’m sure.
By kelli on 2005 10 03
Great post! I agree totally that what is tired to one person is really tired to another…it’s horrible the way we try to “outdo” one another.
Thanks for being so honest!
By Jane on 2005 10 03
Oh Les?please don?t feel bad that I tend to qualify my experiences and feelings with you. There is a subtle difference between empathy and sympathy, and I try to walk that fine line very carefully. (Sorry, that?s the previous social/human service worker coming out of me.) I hate it when people say they know exactly how I feel when they don?t, so I try really hard not to do that same thing?especially when it involves an experience that I have NOT had?like having kids. I would be foolish to think that I know how you feel. I can have empathy for you. I can try to understand what you must be feeling, but I can certainly not sympathize with you because I do not have that same shared experience. It?s the whole ?until you?ve walked a mile in my shoes?? Just wanted to clarify that. I don?t qualify my feelings because I think I?m going to be shot down or attacked. I qualify my feelings because everyone has the right to have their own unique emotions without someone else butting in and one-upping them with their own. Hope that makes sense! Sheesh…that was a long comment. Sorry!
By Paige (CoraBelle) on 2005 10 03
i love this post !!!! i totally relate to this
By maiji on 2005 10 03