A good friend of mine (to quote her) once said, “I’d like the ability to experience something and not get all sucked into the drama of it.” That there is damn fine advice if you ask me. Someone should make that a bumper sticker. I’d buy it. Ok, I wouldn’t but that’s only because I don’t buy bumper stickers. But if I did? That would be one that I’d buy.
Did I tell you I have three jobs? That’s three jobs not counting the toddler and the husband. I only have one full time job, the five classes I teach for the rural university I love. The other two are online jobs. Did you know it’s nearly impossible to work online with a toddler? Of course you know. You can imagine the plant getting tipped over as you frantically type an email to your boss or finish up an installation of some software only to read,
“Apparently you effed this one up. Good job, ho-bag. Try to install me again”
and as you turn around you see your naked toddler peeing freely while running (on the rented carpet) to the kitchen. Weeeee! Working at home is EASY! It’s FUN! Everyone wants it!
I know, I actually really really do enjoy the option to work at home. And I really really appreciate that *I* get to be the one to ignore my toddler, not an underpaid daycare lady with ten other toddlers doing the same thing. And I’m thrilled that she gets to see MOMMY modelling things like “How to handle stress 101: Chocolate” and in between emails I can jump on the floor and read to her and tickle her and do Yoga with her. (She’s so cute trying downward dog. She sucks at it, but who doesn’t? .. aside from Candice, that is.)
I’m not sayin’... I’m just sayin’...
I worked from home until January and cried many mornings the first weeks I took Amelia to daycare with big sister. It’s a bit crazed to work from home, but very cool if you can! I just started feeling like all my worlds were converging a little too much toward the end (the barking dogs, screaming babe, annoying clients calling, the FedX man ringing the doorbell, my neighbor walking over). But ya know what? I would jump at working from home again.
By Jamie on 2006 04 06
I feel the same way. It’s frustrating at times, feeling that there really isn’t ever time you’re NOT at work, since work is in your living room, but ya, I’m so so so so so so so so sooooo happy to be that person going nuts at home.
By Mrs. Flinger on 2006 04 06
Man, I wish I didn’t freak out at the little stuff too. Or the big stuff for that matter. Yeah, bad stress sucks. Wish I had something more intelligent to say, but I understand cause I’m in the same boat…
By sarahgrace on 2006 04 06
You know that misery loves company right? Just understanding is enough sometimes. Smooch.
By Mrs. Flinger on 2006 04 06
Yep, trying to work at home also. Oh, now I’m loosing my hair and have black circles under my eyes. And if one more person askes me “what do you do all day?” I will kick them in the crotch.
Ok, so I sympathise with you.
By dizzymizzy on 2006 04 06
I know it’s hard but when you start getting bogged down on things like this, you’ve got to try a little perspective from the point of ’ you only live once.’ It’s fine to get swept away, everyone does, but the sooner you start coming back and can embrace the big picture as in ‘This is your life!’. I’m the last person to dispense advice, I know this but I do it anyway. We all think you are an asskicker even tho you are so self-critical, hell, maybe that is part of the reason we love you so much, I dunno. At least you don’t have the blinders on, Hon. Three jobs? Jesus Christ. I can barely manage two kids and one husband. You rule.
By texasbelle on 2006 04 06
Thanks for the shout out woman!
And hey. Being a stay at home mom was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’m tired and cranky and stressed all the time. And I have to keep reminding myself not to get so focused on keeping house and cooking that I neglect the kiddos. It’s tough! You’re not alone.
By candice on 2006 04 07