The Inner Voice - Mommy Guilt, Family, Work and You


Expectations are resentments under construction. - Anne Lamott

The Inner Voice. “Your son needs you. His eyes are so puffy. He needs sleep and your arms.”

The Inner Voice. “You better get your work done on time or you will disappoint. You don’t want to be THAT PERSON. We rail against THAT PERSON. Be a better person at work. What if you had no job? WHAT IF.”

The Inner Voice. “Look at those stay at home moms. They love their kids more than you do. Clearly.”

Logic has no chance. Has no foothold.

My mind is a neighborhood I try not go to alone. - Anne Lamott

The Inner Voice. “You can’t do it all.”

The Inner Voice. “You can do it all.”

The Inner Voice. “But you will fail.”

Reality says my son is here with me, “working” too. His medium is a coloring book, mine is a computer. Together we connect the dots, balancing the impossible.

Reality says we’re fine, the children know they’re loved.
Reality says it’s a constant struggle, a good struggle, a necessary struggle.
Reality says some days will be harder than others.

And in the end, it is all ok. Reality, history, logic, fact. Looking back, it all turned out ok.

It always does.

The most terrifying day of your life is the day the first one is born. Your life, as you know it… is gone, never to return. But they learn how to walk, and they learn how to talk and you want to be with them. And they turn out to be the most delightful people you will ever meet in your life. - Lost in Translation

Posted: 3/1/2010