Mrs. Flinger: A work in progress

Fixing Mrs. Flinger Feb 20, 2015

I'm currently working on this website. I want to add back the links to blogs I love, some ways to find content easier, and put in archive, at last, some of the ancient articles. Come back to see updates.

On being humbled May 31, 2011

#Life#Rants and Raves

A letter came in the mail today. I was reminded about a generation so much greater than ours. While we are sending emails, incapable of being bothered by the post-office, my Great Aunt Marcy sent my son a card for his 4th birthday. It’s not just a card this time, it’s a reminder. When she lost her husband of 50 years I couldn’t be bothered to send a single thing while she, in return, never once forgets a birthday of her great, great grandnephew. I couldn’t bear to open the card and see only, “Love Aunt Marcy” instead of adding “and Uncle Charles” to the second row. I stood at the back door and cried. Earlier today I was reminded that while I have “friends” on facebook I don’t know what they’re up to. People are... Read more

My son is four today. I’m officially 48 months postpartum. See also: WTF and HOW DID THAT HAPPEN? May 20, 2011

#Life#The Flinger Family#Baby O

Baby O, Last night as you were falling asleep, you could barely keep your eyes open (much like your mother after 9pm on two glasses of wine) and you asked for your story. “You want to know about the day you were born?” Your eyes lit up and you stuck your tongue out in that way you do when you get excited and I think you’re sort of proving evolution isn’t just a theory. “It was a sunny day a lot like today was,” you don’t get the irony in my voice but I chuckle. “I took your sister to soccer and then to get a hair cut.” I look at your scraggly hair and feel terrible that you’ve had two real hair cuts in your life. “Grandma and Grandpa came up to visit and we all went out to dinner. While we were at dinner, it was... Read more

Noise May 17, 2011

#Life#The Flinger Family#Working Mom

My Grandfather was an electrician in a mill. He often explained his lack of hearing from years of being around loud machines. “GRANDPA! TURN DOWN THE TEE VEE!” He would wave a hand in our direction, mutter something completely incomprehensible and turn the volume on the TV up. Last weekend a friend of mine spoke of reducing the noise in his life. As a single man who enjoys many activities outside the computer, I thought it was a strange, though admirable, statement. So often the level of noise in my life is beyond was I can tolerate. Children whining and needing immediate attention pulling on my arm, Co-Workers on IM, twitter, facebook, email, friends asking about this weekend. It’s not that the noise is bad, each in of itself, it’s that together there isn’t... Read more

The Future of Web and Visions of Equality May 16, 2011

For years I’ve been a minority in our field. In graduate school I was one of two females. The program pushed Java but I studied PHP and my co-female-student studied XML. Why is that? Why would the two women select another language than the standard object oriented fare served to the students? Is it possible there is a feminine friendly language that helps retain women in computer science? This is the future of our field. The is the future of the web. Bringing technology, the joy of development, the art of mobile application development: these are the true places women can excel and find balance in a male dominated field. WebVisions 2011 is about “exploring the future of the web” and I can see no better reason to join those who are passionate about the future of a field... Read more

On Motherhood May 14, 2011

#Life#The Flinger Family

Six Mothers’ Days. Two children. Thirty-five years of life. Nine years of marriage. 856 diapers. 52 throw up accidents. 4,329,784 whiny complaints. 89 wet sheets. 610 school lunches. 423 sleepless nights. One homemade card. Bliss. Read more

But maybe I can be your sunshine? May 06, 2011

#Life#Best Of

He watches the truck with a camper pass us on the road. “I wanna go camping again. Are we EVER going to go camping again?” My three year old is a drama queen sometimes. I laugh. “Yes, we’ll go camping, I promise. We’ll go when it gets sunny again.” “It’s NEVER going to be sunny again!” He whines. He also loves to whine. “Oh, it will,” I assure him, “Probably July 5th.” The classic NorthWest joke doesn’t mean anything to him. “Hey, I’m wearing yellow! Maybe I can be your sunshine?” he beams a little. He starts to point out all the yellow. There’s a yellow sign! And a yellow truck! And yellow flowers! Suddenly there is so much yellow that he declares it is a sunny day even as I... Read more

Evaluation May 03, 2011

“She is very bright. Intelligent and creative; loving and kind. She seems to be a natural in math and science but her artistic abilities and imagination give her a great balance. She’s very social. She is unaware of the politics of other girls in her grade. She is a tender soul who can not sit still. She has trouble focusing and might need some work in this area. She is often tired in the afternoon. She seems young for her age. Overall she is a joy to work with. While she is a bit bouncy and can have difficult finishing a task before starting another, making her very inefficient, she’s got a lot of potential and you should be proud of her.” As it turns out? She really is my kid. Even if she doesn’t look it. Read more

On being S.A.D. May 02, 2011

The heat kicks back on and I know it won’t warm me. The walk to the car will be wet and cold. I wear a layer of my body like an extra coat of energy, just waiting, hoping to be used. I drink another cup of coffee and turn the heat as high as I can while I drive.  I will struggle with children, putting coats and hoods and boots on and splashing back to the car again. The effort nearly crushes me. It is May. The realization nearly takes my breath away. It is May. Seattle just finished the coldest April on record.  Even after two amazingly sunny days this weekend, we return to the usual rain and high of 55 degrees. You can watch for signs of failures, you can talk about becoming better at your job, or at parenting, or about being healthier phsyically. But one day you... Read more

Chicks, Bunny Ears and Sugar. (This is not about the playboy mansion.) Apr 27, 2011

Like last year, the year before that, and the year prior to that and so on, it rained on Easter here. Shocker. I did manage to click some pretty terrible photos with my iPhone for you. You’re welcome. Behold! The creepiest bunny in the history of all bunnies! As we prepared to set out the goods for the children the night before Easter, we discovered some mice pellets in our pantry. Let me rephrase that, WE FOUND OUT WE HAVE MICE IN OUR PANTRY. As in EATING OUR FOOD. Easter mice: Trumps creepy bunny. Instead of leaving the candy and goodies on the table for the children, we decided (in a quick act of awesome by yours truly) to write a little riddle and have the children hunt for their Easter Basket Innards. Brilliant, right? (nod yes.) I wrote the following, clever, did I... Read more

Sticky Notes Apr 18, 2011

#Life#The Flinger Family#Working Mom

I have these sticky notes. They line my computer background, they clutter my virtual desktop, the travel in my portable office. They are text files I keep open to remind myself of my goals, todo lists, small notes. I have one that I keep open nearly all day, every day. It is titled, “People I want to emulate.”  On this text file I keep a very short list of people I admire and dare to imitate. It’s like my own version of the, “What Would Jesus Do” bracelet. What would Amanda say to this quest I’m on? Would Scott Berkun forget to submit a speaking proposal? I bet Emily Lewis would take the time to code this correctly, without shortcuts. I’m sure Jenn wouldn’t let her Unicorn be snuffed by a little late-spring hail. These are... Read more