Mrs. Flinger: A work in progress

UPDATE TO Mrs. Flinger October 16, 2015

Because the Universe has a wicked sense of humor, after this delcaration, my blog threw up all over my last upgrade.

So I'm starting over using Craft. Turning 40 and kid entering Jr High next year, sometimes it's just time for a change. These archives will still exist in the way the last child goes off to college and their room is the same for 20 years, but it's just time to move forward.

I need to work for Coorporate America, and apparently, so should you Aug 01, 2005

#Life#Rants and Raves#Working Mom

My field is dominated by men. This is fact. The computer science field is 80% male. I think this is an issue. I do. In fact, my dissertation proposal “Women in Computer Science: Teaching Methodology verses Graduation Ratios,” got me accepted into a PhD program because this issue is hot. Call me a geek. I’m a women’s lib geek. It’s true.

So, when I decided to work part time and be home for my baby, you can imagine the impression it left. The thing is? These “men” keep asking me to go to work. And do you know why? It’s not because I’m seen as an equal in their eyes in the field. It’s not because I’m smart. It’s not because I can do the work with some reliability and passion. It’s because “I’m not doing anything right now.” This is a much bigger issue than the ratio of men and women in computer science. This is the fundamental problem in our society today.

If I’m not “doing anything,” then what is the value of having children? If I’m not “doing anything,” then maybe it’s OK for me to start sitting on my ass all day eating bon-bons watching Operah. If I’m not “doing anything,” you can do your own damn laundry, your own damn dinners, your own damn cleaning. It’s not just the husbands, either. It’s the coworkers, the Uncles, the bosses. It’s every man. If I’m not “doing anything,” then how do you expect us to raise children interested and ready for college? The place where you are employed? The system you feel so high and mighty about? If I’m not “doing anything,” then why not let our children sell their bodies for drugs?  Why not believe there is “nothing we can do” about family degeneration and divorce?

What’s even more sad is that the other side isn’t much better. Karyn had a great post from a working mother’s perspective. I’ve heard my great friend Rbelle talk about being a working mommy. It seems to me there is no win. If you’re working: You are not being a good mommy. But if you’re not? You better get your ass crackin’ and start looking for work.

“Because Cooperate America needs you more than your children.”