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In an effort to launch something in a very short timeframe, after three months of coding in off hours for stints of a few minutes at a time, I used a framework to get *something* out. This is not code I would use for a client. Ever.
In fact, if you could see my face right now, you'd realize this is a little more than painful.
But, as sometimes has to happen with personal projects, the non-paying personal site takes a backseat to quality and gets dressed in handmedown code. Thanks to VMcore for the free ride here.
I love you more & more all the time. Well done!
I think I love this post but I’m too drunk to be sure.
Seriously, you got some go kill yourself feedback? For the record, I’m with ya lady. It’s tiring, exhausting even. But sometimes you just have to belly up and do the job you signed up for - being a mom.
And now I’m looking forward to having my religious beliefs insulted.
All parents complain about it being hard. If they don’t they are lying to themselves. I am sure our forefathers pissed and moaned around the campfire that little Johnny was not plowing the field correctly or little Mary did not churn the butter the right way. It is just different degrees.
Yup. We think we’re entitled + it’s not just mothers, it’s the Millenials…http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2007/11/08/60minutes/main3475200.shtml
Worth a watch. I’d be interested to hear your thoughts.
Eh, I think it’s the result of being held under the thumb of society in the past too much in some degree, ya dig? Moms portrayed on TV as these high-heeled, dress wearing cooks/maids/hotties who never complained, used a cuss-word, or needed a drink or a foot-rub. Sometimes we just overcorrect, I think. Now we’re screaming about how “it’s hard, damnit! and I can’t just pretend to be perfect! and I like being a mom, but I need a night out and a break sometimes!”
And if you ask me, the whole Sense of Entitlement thing? It’s rampant in EVERY area of our society. I saw it when I was TA’ing at WFU, too. But I saw it just as much when I was working at Dairy Queen and when I was managing a Brookstone. “The customer is always right” has been taken to such extreme levels that it’s ridiculous now.
Obviously, I could go on for days.
Great post! No go kill yourself. Or have a Mom Night Out. You know, whatever you feel like doing… because YOU’VE EARNED IT.
I love you bitches.
We love you more!
Seriously, though. I think that entitlement is a real problem that keeps escalating.
However, on the flip side…There are people who look down there noses at mothers having any semblence of a life. At least that happens a lot where I live.
For example: When my ex says that he has a BIG problem with me going to movies with my friends after my son is IN BED and being watched by his stepfather (Who would pay money to not have to take me to a chick flick) I will gladly tell him to stick it up his rear end.
Moms need alone/down/play time but not at the expense of their child.
I love all of you bitches too (including you, Leslie!)
This was bang-on. I am a Chartered Accountant (CA), and now teach CA students. They OOZE Entitlement, and I am all, “Suck it up. I had to work to get my initials and SO DO YOU.”
Amen, Leslie. Amen.
I don’t know if I’m still in the honeymoon phase with the Bean, or what, but I really don’t want to do anything without him. I don’t really care if my nails are done, or about having a girls night out, if it means spending time away from him. Maybe that makes me a total freak, but I can own that.
I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I work outside of home and don’t get to spend as much time with him as I wish I could, so every minute seems precious. Or maybe it’s just because he is so freaking awesome it blows my mind. But either way, my focus is always on him and not ME, and I don’t care if that is unhealthy or whatever.
I don’t want ME time, I want Bean Time!
To all the whiners out there, put that in your pipe and smoke it!
(I’ve always wanted to say that to someone.)
I am struggling with finding the right words to say other than EXACTLY! But I am failing badly. There is a new crop of employees at my office, fresh out of college, and they walk around like they own the place. It drives me CRAZY. I am striving to make sure my own child doesn’t grow up thinking the world owes her something.
I don’t blame the teen to 25 crowd for feeling a sense of entitlement. Physically the part of the brain that evaluates consequences and long term fall-out from their decisions is not fully developed. HOWEVER, (excuse me while I step up on my soapbox)one would hope that after a a certain point a grown woman would be able to prioritize her life so that self gratification is a treat, not a habit. I know the women of which you speak. I am related to some women of which you speak. I’m too self righteous or is it too lazy?)to become one of the women of which you speak(trip climbing down from soapbox wanders off in search of self-gratifying wine).
Is it too much to ask to find balance in all this? Zappos seems to have found a balance, even though the video portrays it’s employees as a bunch of sillies parading around the workplace. Zappos has staying power because it both caters to that Millenial crowd AND pushes the envelope on creativity + customer service. Let me put it this way, we Millenials might do it different, but we still get it done. (Many of us, in fact, are avid GTD—Getting Things Done, a productivity system users + advocates).
Lots of us (self included) own and run our own businesses, take creative leaps, have figured a way out of the cube. For that, I think we can be seen as a model. Maybe a model that needs work (I’m thinking about the early models of cylons in Battlestar Galactica here)...but a solid model, nonetheless.
I love my kids and I love my time without my kids. That time without them is always short lived. I don’t get the party mom thing. It’s so immature.
I so want to know who posted the go kill yourself comment. you should sign that person up for every subscription on the interweb. That commenter must have been a party mom. You rock.
Amen Sister. As a solo parent, “Me Time” is virtually non-existent. I relish it when I DO get it, but first and foremost I’m a mom. It’s called Responsibility.
You’re so right on about the “Entitlement” epidemic. I work with 20-somethings and want to smack them upside the head virtually every day.
Amen sistah on entitlement. You have the right to PERSUE happiness not a right to have it handed to you.
Some days it’s best that Mommy goes out for the sake and sanity of keeping peace in the family.
That’s some serious fucking honesty honey… YOU GO GURRRRRL. I think everyone does need a dose of “grow a pair.” Nobody said being a mom (or parent, period) was fun, rewarding or titillating (RAWR). If you think that, you should check to see if your address is in Stepford.
It’s all about survival, and we all do the best we can.
Like I say - being a Mom (specifically MY KID’S mom) is the best thing in the world and I LOVE it. Being a parent? SUCKS DONKEY DICKS.
My last two social occasions sans progeny totally got annihilated by the little beasts (one or other other or both were ill.) Was I happy about it? No, but I am a mother, so I dealt with it. They were sick and they needed their mother AND their father.
I figure they will not always be around to suck the life out of me, but I need to let them while this still can (and even want to!)
Great post. We do not need to be all-sacrificial, but you are right on about this sense of entitlement that has been rearing its ugly head.
An AMEN is in order.
Even if you criticize my faith in your next brutally honest post.
awesome post girl.
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