Facebook, you’re forgiven

Jul 10, 2009

#The College Angsty Years#Family Life

Whatever issues I’ve had with facebook, and I have, are gone today. Suddenly today I saw the most amazing use of facebook and I’m thankful over and over for it.

I’ve mentioned my friend Amy who’s breast cancer took us from her family and friends entirely too early. It hit home too close and too hard for me. It was hard.

I was unable to make it to her memorial here in town. I was sad for that fact but I forgave myself because I knew I would’ve lost my shit if I’d gone. I mean The Big Ugly Crying.

But the community that Amy created around herself and those who knew her is a wonderful one and I did miss out on celebrating Amy’s life with them. Until today.

Today I went to her Facebook page just because I was thinking of her. Today I realized a lot of people are going to Amy’s facebook page because they are thinking of her. They are talking to her, leaving her notes, telling her about her children and about daily life and sharing stories of love and comfort and remembering.

Today I hugged my daughter and son a bit tighter because of facebook.

Today I remembered a great friend because of facebook.

Today I realized how we touch people in the world beyond what we even comprehend because of facebook.

I hope it’s ok that I share this story, it’s the one that touched me the most from her page. A friend shares, “Your baby girls misses you today Amy. She was tearfully talking about you today. But don’t worry, R came up to her and said “Don’t be sad, your mama will always be in your heart.” and then gave Maddy a big hug and kiss. After R was done Maddy told her she needed another hug and she laid her head on R’s shoulder and cried a little bit more. R patted her and stroked her cheek and then they sat together holding hands for a while. Your daughter is such a wonderful little girl. And I love to see our girls supporting eachother when they need it. And don’t worry, I cuddled both of them until the smiles returned.”

Today I forgave facebook. Because I needed to read this. As do so many more.


*I changed the little girl’s name because I don’t know how they would feel about publishing it. I know Amy has written openly here on my blog about Maddy so I feel ok with leaving her name as is. I hope this is ok with those involved. Much love to everyone who is.


  1. Wow, that’s terrific, not about Amy, but how Facebook brings people together. Big hugs to you.

    By Sheila on 2009 07 10

  2. Gasping for breath, so incredible to think of the guardians who unexpectedly surface.

    By amanda on 2009 07 10

  3. sniff, sniff… sad but sweet.

    By KC on 2009 07 10

  4. What a great post.  I’ve never thought of face book that way, but it does keep and bring so many together. smile

    Thanks for sharing.

    Are we friends on FB yet?

    By AmazingGreis on 2009 07 10

  5. Amy would be happy that you’ve forgiven FB.  smile  She was the one who nagged me over and over to join, so it’s only fitting that we would all be honoring her life through it.

    By Paige on 2009 07 10

  6. Sorry for your loss. I am glad you have forgiven Facebook. smile A close friend of mine passed away in May and we use his Facebook page the same way-to update him on the goings on and show our love. It is so small, but yet so big.

    By mrschattypants on 2009 07 10

  7. *sniff*

    A friend killed himself this spring: PTSD. People have continued to leave stories on his page.


    By Al_Pal on 2009 07 10

  8. You have the biggest, sweetest heart. I’m so glad to know you.

    By Sugar Jones on 2009 07 10

  9. Hugs to you Les…so tough to lose a friend. It hits so hard.

    By Jamie on 2009 07 11

  10. oh my, sniff sniff.

    By Aimee Greeblemonkey on 2009 07 13

  11. I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your friend. This post was heartbreaking for me.  Facebook has been a Godsend to me in many ways. I’m glad you’ve forgiven “it”. 

    Jessica -TMH

    By themouthyhousewives on 2009 07 13

  12. Wow. My heart… hugs to you…

    By jennyonthespot on 2009 07 20