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Dec, 29, 2010

FAIL BIG OR GO HOME

I don’t really “DO” New Year’s Resolution, yanno? I see it as just one more thing to fail at by the third week, oh who am I kidding, the third day in to the New Year.

Oddly enough, my boss told me to embrace failing this year. “Try to fail more this year” he said.

Uh. Ok.

There’s a theory to this and it sounded as eloquent as shit when he told it to me. I just can recollect that right now.

But I get the point: Don’t be afraid to fail. You’re not trying if you’re not failing. You’ll never know the limits if you don’t push them too far.

And other such clichés.

(Like I said, it was eloquent as shit when he told it to me.)

So, I’d like to introduce a few things I’m going to fail at this year in list form because I like lists and you’re too busy to read paragraphs anyway.

1. I will fail at being a marketing director: I will. I understand logic and coding and social media but I do not know marketing. Not yet anyway. But I will BE a marketing director. Or, rather, I *AM* a marketing director.

Let me ‘splain. No, wait, I’ll let Kevin Smith ‘splain:

Remember that if an ass-hat like KevinSmith can succeed at something like film or life, then what the fuck is stopping YOU from doing the same.

2. I will fail at eating well and working out daily: If I don’t plan on failing, I’ll never plan on the day AFTER that fail. The day I decide I can either get back on that healthy horse or get down on myself for falling off of it in the first place.

3. I will fail at paying my bills on time: I’m setting up a five day late policy for our family. We’re allowed five days. FIVE DAYS after the first and the fifteenth. Not twenty, not ten, not six. FIVE. In the mean time, I’ll also plan on autopaying a few of those and have checks as a backup.

4. I will fail at being a perfect mother: Duh. But I’ll remember that my kids love me and I’m still an amazing mom.

5. I will fail at being organized: And that’s ok. It’s not an excuse, it’s a fact. Facts can change. Excuses can’t.

6. I will fail at being a great friend all the time: So it’s OK if someone fails to be mine.

7. I will fail at my freelance job: So I will not over promise and I will learn from my mistakes.

8. I will let my children fail, too: I will watch them explore, I will begin the process of letting the rope out inch by inch and I will hold them when they fall.

9. I will fail at my marriage: There will be days I try too hard or too little or talk too much or not enough or misread body language. So it’s ok if my husband does, too.

10. I will fail at writing/blogging/social media: We can’t all be Dooce or Ree or Jenny. And we shouldn’t try. I will be myself and that will be enough this year.

2011, here’s to you.

good-bye 2010

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Comments

This is a good list. I like the idea of coming at resolutions ass-backwards. I think I'll try failing something or another.
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Posted by seotonsaggressive on 2010-12-31 01:03:47 Hmmm.... I too will fail at paying my bills on time. I think I'll adopt your five day rule though. I will fail at being organized, but will continue to try. I will fail at my weight loss plan on some days but try, try, again. Happy New Year woman!
Posted by Jessica on 2010-12-30 15:06:37 Great post Les... and I LUV the pic of LB! I'm working on something similar for 2011. I'm working on not being perfect. (I'm not implying I was ever perfect to begin with.) But my need for perfection really puts a damper on me accomplishing anything... because I don't want to FAIL. So I am going to clean the house imperfectly (which is better than not cleaning at all), I'm going to budget imperfectly, be an imperfect employee, friend, and wife. And that is enough. :)
Posted by Paige on 2010-12-30 11:40:02 Sizzle, I'm really hard on myself, too. I love that my Yoga teacher is always telling us it's about what our bodies are doing THAT DAY. So it's not like you have to be better than what you did yesterday. Sometimes your body isn't in that space again. I am trying to apply that to life.
Posted by Mrs. Flinger on 2010-12-29 22:03:56 This is great! No, seriously! I need to embrace failing more. I am way, way too hard on myself. One thing yoga teaches me is that it's all about progress, not about perfection.
Posted by Sizzle on 2010-12-29 14:35:03 You suck at failing! ;) Also: now I've recently won something special, I'm going to be failing epically throughout 2011!! That's not a bad thing really... :D
Posted by Matt Robin on 2010-12-29 13:06:21

Matt Robin

J12/29/2010

You suck at failing!

Also: now I’ve recently won something special, I’m going to be failing epically throughout 2011!! That’s not a bad thing really… :D
Sizzle

J12/29/2010

This is great! No, seriously! I need to embrace failing more. I am way, way too hard on myself. One thing yoga teaches me is that it’s all about progress, not about perfection.
Mrs. Flinger

J12/29/2010

Sizzle, I’m really hard on myself, too. I love that my Yoga teacher is always telling us it’s about what our bodies are doing THAT DAY. So it’s not like you have to be better than what you did yesterday. Sometimes your body isn’t in that space again. I am trying to apply that to life.
Paige

J12/30/2010

Great post Les… and I LUV the pic of LB! I’m working on something similar for 2011. I’m working on not being perfect. (I’m not implying I was ever perfect to begin with.) But my need for perfection really puts a damper on me accomplishing anything… because I don’t want to FAIL. So I am going to clean the house imperfectly (which is better than not cleaning at all), I’m going to budget imperfectly, be an imperfect employee, friend, and wife. And that is enough.
Jessica

J12/30/2010

Hmmm….

I too will fail at paying my bills on time. I think I’ll adopt your five day rule though.

I will fail at being organized, but will continue to try.
I will fail at my weight loss plan on some days but try, try, again.

Happy New Year woman!
magpie

J01/07/2011

This is a good list. I like the idea of coming at resolutions ass-backwards. I think I’ll try failing something or another.