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In an effort to launch something in a very short timeframe, after three months of coding in off hours for stints of a few minutes at a time, I used a framework to get *something* out. This is not code I would use for a client. Ever.
In fact, if you could see my face right now, you'd realize this is a little more than painful.
But, as sometimes has to happen with personal projects, the non-paying personal site takes a backseat to quality and gets dressed in handmedown code. Thanks to VMcore for the free ride here.
I like to think of my blogging friends as real life friends. I know it has hurt my feelings when I had a comment deleted off a blog and it wasn’t even a bad comment.
I also think like high school, the blogosphere has clickes, and it’s hard to let in those. But I’m still a shy 13 year old who wants too, even when I realize I have nothing in common with the crowd that doesn’t want me.
You know, I’ve only been blogging since December, but I’ve already met some fantastic people. And a few of these people have provided me with support when my “real life” friends were too busy or unaware that I needed support. So, I totally agree that the feelings we have about our online friends are just as real as with the friends we actually see in person.
Btw, I’m loving your blog so much, too! Right now I feel like I’m on a mission to find cool people who are not within the “rockstar blog clique” and so far I’m finding people who are even cooler!
I had no idea that I would connect with some cool people online like you (and R*Belle and Charla and Anne!) Unfortunately my IRL relationships have probably “suffered” somewhat with me trying to juggle the mama/work/wife thing. But I do feel like I’ve connected with people online through their blogs and I would feel comfortable meeting you all out for coffee or a margarita or whatever if you are ever in Nashville. So the relationships might be online, but I think the emotions and friendships made can be real.
Hmm, I think you’ve been in my head again?! I’ve been thinking these thoughts lately too because even though I still read a lot, I don’t comment because I have little time and have to see what every one is up to! With that, I feel guilty, like I’ve been a bad bloggy friend. I like this outlet in my life right now. I like reading about everyone’s challenges and triumphs. It makes me feel human, even if it is “online.”
As one of those people who reads more than comments, and who sits on the other end of the computer thinking you (and others) are pretty cool, thanks for this. You read my mind.
That totally hit the spot. One of my best friends is a bloggy friend and we do stay up giggling on IM while watching American Idol. And sometimes I feel hurt when a blog I comment on often and list in my blogroll comments sometimes and doesn’t list me at all. I take it personally! And I shouldn’t. Just different circles, babe.
As one who is still making college friends, but also is making friends within the blogging community, I’d say they’re equally as difficult. In real life sometimes it’s hard for me to know what a person needs from me in order to become friends and online it’s the same way. I’d like to think that people will read my blog and then visit again, but how do I know what they want in every case?
Mmm-hmm. Would I be seen as freaky if I said I’ve actually lost (a little, but still) sleep over waning bloggy friendships? Which is a bit ironic seeing as how I suck at maintaining said bloggy friendships but still….
It’s tough and, yeah, it hurts. Sometimes a lot. You read these peoples *lives* - and they, maybe, read yours. There’s a connection there that’s very different from your normal friendships (unless you exchange daily journal-like letters with your real-life friends, too).
That said I shall also add (to quote the great and powerful Rex from “Toy Story”): “Great - now I have guilt!”
It has to be real because otherwise why would anyone write anything while giving others the ability to comment? It’s a little give and take which leads to common points, new perspectives, and ultimately knowledge…we learn a little more each time, about the people who read our ramblings/bitching/rampant insecurities. With the exception, obviously, of all the freaky stalkers who never comment.
I agree and I am totally guilty of all that. Seriously - I miss you all though.
*sniff*sniff* I think online friendships as real.everything you said in this post, I have felt as well. very well said.
I think your SUPERCOOLL and I would have coffee with you anytime
I do think online friedships are real.
I have only been blogging a very short while. I do think that online friendships are real. I actually think they may be more real. We have the courage to say the truth here because it is somehow annonomous. In real life sometimes we don’t say the truth because it might hurt someone’s feelings. If you put a picture of youself in new blouse and asked if it looks good on you, we would tell you the truth. Someone standing in front of you in real life might tell you it looks good even if it doesn’t just to avoid hurting your feelings.
I think this makes up for the lack of getting out we get after we have kids.
IRL, I am one of those shy ones that takes a while to warm up and finds a small group of true friends and sticks with them. Online, I feel that often I can bypass the ‘warm-up’ time and just jump right into the conversation and be myself. Although I don’t blog myself, I enjoy the ease of how connections with other people can be made.
This sounds like an interesting sociology thesis project!
I think that online friendships are a lot like friendships in real life. Some are real and some are not.
I’ve wanted to comment on this all day, but damn if work didn’t get in the way!
I believe a friend is someone you think of fondly as you go throughout your day. It is totally normal for me to think of my bloggy friends just as I do the friends I have “irl.” Someone said earlier, i think, that there are times you can turn to your online friends when you can’t talk to the friends face-to-face. While the distance is one con of an online friendship, it can also be a boost to one’s confidience. Although right now it is harder to talk/confide in my friends online (IM seems like a distant memory!), I anticipate once again enjoying the fun I used to have!
I DO think that our blogging buddies mirror that of our “real” buddies. Things happen. And you get too busy to blog or to go out to coffee. It sucks, it does. Especially when you’re NOT the one who’s too busy.
i do need to start bloggin again. But you see, I’m just toooooo busy! AGH!
I think online friendships can be real… very real, for the most part. At the same time they are different than friendships IRL…. you can think about how/what you want to say and reword it a zillion times to get it just right before you post it- instead of just blurting out the first thing you can think of! And it gives the people who can’t get a word in edgewise a chance to speak uP!
A few months ago, Snarfle was in town and do you know what we were discussing? Our BLOGGING FRIENDS! LOL It was so funny and what really made it weird was to actually verbally “talk” about blogs and the ladies we read everyday instead of typing it out.
I think blog relationships are like the “real” thing. I’ve made some major life changes recently because of the inspiration I’ve recevied from blogs.
My best friends are women I’ve met online via blog or message boards.
I have a select few bloggers I feel more of an attachment too, who’d I’d love to meet (waves your way). But, I’ve been a bad blog friend, I’ve become the lazy commenter. I jsut, I feel like I’m not special enough for these people to care what I have to say so I stop saying anything. :( I like to ruin friendships, real, imagined, online and off. I suck.
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