• April 5, 2010

    As a child who was berated for every grade that wasn’t an “A,” I’m very jealous of your family’s more accepting approach.

    Will you adopt me? wink

  • Tricia honea
    April 5, 2010

    Have you been living at my house? We always tell the boys they have to try harder or practice. It’s okay if they don’t get it right the first time.

    Also that sometime they just have to learn the hard way.

    I’m totally okay with that.

  • Sandi
    April 5, 2010

    Yes! My husband and I are trying to do this too. It is so hard to sit back & watch them struggle. I have to remind myself that I am not doing them any favours by clearing the path for them, removing all lives barriers will make things harder in the end.

    Thank you for reminding me that it’s ok for me to fail too!

  • April 5, 2010

    Fail fast. Fail often. And make sure you’re learning the entire time…

  • April 5, 2010

    Thanks for a great reminder.  I think failure is often thought of as a negative because of the sometimes high emotional price-tag that comes with it - but you have to take each one and get whatever you can out of it.  Waste not, want not applies to experience, too, I guess. 

    Although, to be fair, my parents gave me full rein to fail many times and I’m living in their house again.  grin

    PS - you’ve got me beat on the hair but I totally had that outfit.

  • April 5, 2010

    Awww. Hurray for learning from failures.

    Also, for cute kid pics. ;p

  • April 5, 2010

    failure. is. okay.

    Until you have that kid whose failures only fuel his desire to continue failing. When breaking an arm after falling off his bike during that very dangerous stunt is, “SO COOL!”

    When getting a zero on a homework paper is an acceptable choice because, “I got to draw a picture on the backside anyway”

    When stuffing a fistful of coins into the CD player on the car results in nothing (for him - for his parents it involves spending hundreds of dollars for a new radio).

    DAMNIT what do you do when your kid isn’t LEARNING from his failures???

    Pass the Ritalin please.
    (just kidding)

  • April 5, 2010

    Ahh, yes, moderation is key. As is Xanax. wink

  • April 6, 2010

    Which is why helicopter parenting is enabling the child and not allowing the child to learn from failure. It is also the toughest job a parent has too.

  • April 6, 2010

    I SUCK AT FAILING. And yet, I fail. A lot. I am a failure at failing.  Way to make me feel like a loser, Mrs. Flinger.

    (P.S. I come from a long line of Aggies… granddad, mom, and even my dad taught ROTC there for a while.  I knew the Aggie Fight Song by heart before i was 3. And yet? My degree is all orange.  HOOK EM, BABY)

  • April 6, 2010

    I’m all for failure as long as it was accompanied by trying. I’m hopeful I’m ingraining that into my kids (especially since it wasn’t ingrained into me).

  • April 8, 2010

    Failure is hard. I’ve kind of had to parent myself so I’ve meandered through higher education, earning two associates degrees completely by accident (oopsie) in the process of weaving in and out of about four different majors. I finally decided upon nursing, which fits like a glove. The first time? I failed my pediatric clinical (aka, got a C, which is failing in nursing school) twice, so I was out of the program. I’m starting the humbling process of the second go-around. I know I’m smart, I just get bored and distracted.

    And I’m a perfectionist who was never told that failure was okay. I like this post.

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