It’s funny, the things you regret

Jul 11, 2010

We got married on the top of a small mountain on a tiny island off the north-western corner of the “lower forty-eight” states. My dress was twenty dollars from Ross and I wore my favorite combat boots I purchased at a consignment store for six dollars. It was November and a tiny group of our closest friends stood outside in the freezing cold with us.

I have never, once, ever regretted not having a big fancy white-dress wedding.


With increasing frequency, however, the subject of my Dissertation has entered casual conversation. I submitted a proposal I still have a passion for, so much so that when a poor soul asks me about it I launch in to an entire discussion until their eyes glaze over and they begin to drool. It’s a great topic, honestly. I deferred after getting pregnant with my first and again when we moved from Oregon to Seattle. It was at this point I had our second child and safely placed that dream on a high shelf in the nursery.

I keep going back to that shelf, however.

About a year ago a client innocently asked me about my graduate degree. I launched in to the usual discussion about my Masters and continued on in to my passion for Women in Computer Science and shockingly did not see his eyes glaze over. I tossed out my dissertation topic and he actually became interested. As a publisher (did I mention that part?) his eyes lit up and he proclaimed, “YOU NEED TO WRITE THAT BOOK.” This is the start of a nagging fact I’ve desperately tried to ignore: I want to write that book.

In the past twelve months, I’ve become more aware exactly how often I find myself thinking of applications for my research, re-visiting the possibilities, the correlations, the outcome. As a theme, it returns more often than any other. There comes a point where thinking becomes talking, talking becomes analyzing, and analyzing becomes doing.

I believe it’s time to seriously consider the doing.

*Related Post from 2009: Four Generations Of Working Moms


  1. Do it! Yay!

    By schmutzie on 2010 07 11

  2. If you don’t do it, you’re getting the Red Stapler treatment. Which, I promise, you DO NOT WANT! Go, do! You will rock it.

    By Suebob on 2010 07 11

  3. Tee. Red Stapler Treatment. :: shivers :: you’re right. =)

    By Mrs. Flinger on 2010 07 11

  4. It’s never too late. Go for it!

    By Colleen Pence on 2010 07 11

  5. I think that’s awesome. Go you!

    By cindy w on 2010 07 11

  6. You can do it! You never cease to amaze me with your talent to draw people in with words. A book is a wonderful idea!

    By shari on 2010 07 11

  7. You should totally do it! i would buy it. I love your stories and style!

    By Mary Kamaka on 2010 07 11

  8. It is completely within your sphere of possibility.  If, for some unknown reason, you find yourself needing a kick in the ass, I will gladly don my own combat boots and help you along.  grin

    By CitricSugar on 2010 07 11

  9. Go! Go! Go!  It took my sis 10 years from the start of her Masters to the completion of her Doctorate and I love seeing that copy of her dissertation on my shelf!  (and she doesn’t even have kids or a husband…)

    By Snarflemarfle on 2010 07 11

  10. Yeah?  Really?  I’m intrigued.

    Really intrigued.

    Good luck—

    By Susan @WhyMommy on 2010 07 11

  11. OK, on June 23rd I made a comment to your Kelly Rippa blog and now regret I opened my mouth. The comment that has brought said regret? “the Maytag we bought when you were 10 years old is still working its magic for us and I have no plans to replace either, even if they look old.”


    Once the words come out of your mouth, just like the water in Australian toilets, the opposite will happen.

    Our beloved Maytag that was never to be replaced DIED yesterday which correlates to said comment and Murphy.

    No study needed, Murphy’s Law is quoted and proven daily.

    Now we are waiting 2-3 weeks for said replacement to arrive. Murphy: Did I mention that we have dirty underwear getting crusty as I speak?

    By Oma Flinger on 2010 07 12

  12. You will write that book. You may ask, ?How can you be so certain of this?? I guess, it?s because there?s a similarity in deductive reasoning, which some might call it longing, even passion. Although, for me, it was rather slow in materializing, yet it was God?s purpose for my life to write this story, which only took me forty-one years to do! Your story, Mrs. Flinger, made me think of my passion in completing Mommy?s Writings: Mommy, would you like a sandwich? It?s a journey I?ve never ever regretted, just like your wedding, and it?s a true story. It will be in the Marketplace by year-end 2010. Your conscious and unconscious doing brings you to the first step than in writing it. Seattle is inspiring and it will aid your inspiration. I know this from having lived in Mukilteo, WA, for fourteen years. I moved in February 2010 to be near my beloved Son Chad, which is where the dear Lord wants me for the time being. But I?ll always remember Washington States? beauty and my dear friends. Remember this too, God placed your special client publisher within your reach and in your life to inspire you.

    Suzanne McMillen-Fallon, Published Author
    http://www.strategicbookpublishing.com/Mommy, would you like a sandwich?

    By Suzanne on 2010 07 12

  13. You.
    I’m behind you 110%.
    No, 150%.
    No, 180%.
    You get the idea.

    By syd on 2010 07 12

  14. I finished my coursework for my Master’s more than 10 years ago…and never finished my thesis. I start over again (from scratch) on August 30. If I can do this, so can you.

    By Nancy on 2010 07 12

  15. I am so intrigued… I assure you my eyes would not glaze over (yay for girl programmers!).  I’m thrilled for you… and proud of you!  smile

    By Kristel on 2010 07 12

  16. Please write your book! I’m in IT and I’d love to read it!

    By Sandi on 2010 07 13