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In an effort to launch something in a very short timeframe, after three months of coding in off hours for stints of a few minutes at a time, I used a framework to get *something* out. This is not code I would use for a client. Ever.
In fact, if you could see my face right now, you'd realize this is a little more than painful.
But, as sometimes has to happen with personal projects, the non-paying personal site takes a backseat to quality and gets dressed in handmedown code. Thanks to VMcore for the free ride here.
Totally not lying. I swear.
I, too, labored for days (and pushed for 4 hours) before having an emergency c/s with Boo.
This time around? SO MUCH BETTER. I swear. The hardest part of the whole thing was getting that damn IV. It really was quick and fairly painless and I was up and about and chasing the kidlet (not the new one) in no time. I did take my fair share of rx drugs, but probably just cause I was afraid of pain and not really because I was experiencing it.
But I swear, it was such a great experience this time around. The whole labor thing? Totally overrated. And this is coming from someone who totally wanted to have a VBAC and went c/s as plan B.
As for the distracted by shiny things, well, I’m still waiting for that to go away.
Let’s see…thoughts on repeat C-sections. Well, I hope mine won’t be too discouraging, but my second was MUCH worse than my first! Of course, I tried a VBAC and labored with back labor for like two days and then at 3 am after being in hard labor since 10 pm the previous evening, it was decided that my 9 pound 23 inch boy just would not fit. I thought I was going to DIE when the doc said it was time to throw in the towel. When I learned how big he was, though, I was relieved. The surgery was awful though. It took longer because of the scar tissue to cut through from the first incision. Also, my hubby didn’t get to room in with the second time due to needing to be home with our 2 1/2 year old. I desperately missed my daughter at home the entire LONG time I had to be in the hospital. Then my incision bruised really bad three days post-op…we’re talking BLACK abdomen.
Having a toddler to chase immediately after being hacked open AND having the whole newborn thing going on was beyond exhausting and excruciatingly painful. All the literature reminds you that you just had a MAJOR surgery ON TOP OF childbirth and managing a newborn and strongly suggests that you need to get LOTS of rest! ?????????????? How the hell do you get LOTS of rest with a newborn crying every two hours to be fed (did I mention that in spite of nursing my daughter a full year and thinking I was a real pro, I STILL got nipple scabs when I began breastfeeding again?) and simultaneously chasing a toddler all over the house? It was bad….a very bad dark time.
I will even allow myself some disgusting detailed tangents next, because, well…I read your blog and it can’t get any worse than some of the stuff I’ve read here before . So here goes….
The worst part was that for some reason, even though I never got the pushing stage with either of my pregnancies, the second time I developed a MAJOR case of hemorrhoids several days after the C-section. I mean, it was BAD! That alone would have been the deciding factor for me to NEVER go through childbirth again, if I hadn’t already made the decision. OMG! I’m talking piles that literally HUNG there in such a way that I could NOT in any way forget about their existence, even for a moment. Not even if I laid completely motionless. They pretty much covered the entire area from one opening to the other. They were throbbing and wedging my cheeks apart to the point I was relieved I didn’t want more children because I figured my husband could never see past (pun intended) the anomaly in my crotch to ever have sex again anyway. I had to send hubby to the pharmacy for all sorts of wild ointments and a donut pillow thingy. BTW, if you develop this problem, Vicks is the key. I know that sounds crazy, but the icy hot effect is really relieving…if you can deal with the funky smell. HA! I think I’m having flashbacks right now!!!!! THANK GOD they did actually go away within about three weeks. I’ve never Googled hemorrhoids as a daily ritual before that experience. I was seriously afraid that I would have to have surgery. After surviving the C-sections, I sure as heck didn’t want my sphincter area operated on next.
Anyway, you survived some ugly stuff with the first one, so what I described with the second one probably sounds like a cake walk. Thus, I must deduce that you will be just fine. Pick up an extra bottle of Vicks, though, just in case!
Would I lie to you? (cue Annie Lennox)
I labored all night with Caitlin and pushed for 2 1/2 hours yadda yadda yadda (you’ve read it by now). Any way, the scheduled c-section was so much easier on me physically. Therefore, I wasn’t a blubbering, exhausted sweaty mass of oozing liquids in bed. I had a two night stay at the hospital as opposed to four night, too. Mucho better hon. The hardest thing was the epidural while not in labor. Ouch. But so much easier. They also gave me a non-narcotic pain killer which was mucho better than the morphine I’d had the first go round.
Now you’ll still need help with LB and all that jazz, but I think (hope) you’ll find it easier on everyone!
HUGS! I understand the nervousness.
So what’s the date??
If I had another (which I most likely won’t), it would be by planned C, after the emergency C the first time (our stories are similar, but I think yours was worse)... I understand how you feel, and in the end it sounds like it will be best all around.
Your pregnancy brain sounds like my natural state lately… easily distracted! (Blogging is grrrrrrreat for that, isn’t it?)
ps—did you hear? Lindsay @ Suburban Turmoil had her son yesterday… a 10 pounder! Ouch!!
I already knew I’d be having a c-section with Eli cause he was breech, so when I went into labor 2 days before the date I didn’t labor long before the surgery, which went great. I was insanely tired afterward but that’s to be expected. Not a lot of pain, sex a few weeks later, yadda yadda. With Anna it was a planned repeat c-section and there was even less pain, good experience (except that time I dry heaved a few time during surgery, not sure why) , but I got cocky and did waaaay too much waaaay too soon (I don’t recommend a day long walking shopping trip a week out) so it took my incision a little longer to heal the second time around.
I’m doing the repeater this time too. I’m praying it goes the way I hear from everyone. I’m just praying I don’t go into labor beforehand. I had a similar but different bad first experience, emergency c/s then infectted incision. IT BLEW. I don’t think I left the house for 2 mos. Talk about PPD. Anyway, I’m praying it’s better this time. Cause really? That’s all we can do. Pray and go with it.
And JEEZ will this one get OFF my sciatic nerve for the love of all things HOLY.
Personally, since I had a C-Section with Julian, I’m like “Right on! No More Labor!” LOL As I told my husband, “well, atleast we don’t have to play the waiting game anymore.”
Anyway….please don’t get discouraged but….that attention span issue you’re having…it keeps going even after giving birth. Oooo…look, SHINY STUFF! *runs off*
aka the queen of lists or, I swear, I’d forget my own name
My only thought about your c-section is check your insurance coverage. And start saving your pennies now.
My oldest cost $25K, with $5K out-of-pocket. Was a vaginal birth, I was only in labor with him for less than four hours. I was not pleased with those bills. Btw, 10-pounders are do-able… hurt less than my not-quite-8-pounder… they’re squishier.
I’m in my own ‘shiny stuff’ phase - ooooh, gardening seeds!
Oh, and have a meal game plan for after the baby’s born. Whether it’s gift certificates for takeout at Applebees or frozen entrees in the freezer or flirting with the pizza guy for free coupons, start thinking about that stuff in the next few months. Cooking will be the last thing on your mind.
I’ve had two scheduled c-sections, and I’ll have a third at the end of May. While they’re not total pieces of cake (you still have to have the epidural and the catheter, and you still have to recover from surgery), I found them totally peaceful and pleasant in comparison to my one attempt at labor and then a c-section after no sleep and no shower and an epidural-gone-wrong. I liked going in all rested and showered, and saying, “Excuse me, but I seem to have a baby lodged in my uterus; could you please remove that for me?” And then they did, and then I went back to my room and my hair was still approximately as it had been when I arrived, and I could sit up in bed and talk pleasantly to people and enjoy the baby and be awake for the rest of the day, instead of collapsing as I did after my post-labor c-section.
First of all, it sounds like you don’t have a choice. It’s not like you are Britney Spears who was scared and wouldn’t even try.
And I went through the same (or similar thing) although mine wasn’t on threat of death. He just wouldn’t come out. Over two days of inducing. NO PROGRESS. Doc broke my water. STILL NO PROGRESS. I opted for the C-Section. And after that i said no way in hell am I trying labor again. My other two were scheduled and it really is easier when you aren’t so tired (physically and mentally and emotionally) from the labor and disappointment of not being able to do what you are told your whole life that you should be able to do.
Try not to stress or obsess over this Leslie. You are doing what is best for you and your baby. And you know what to expect this time and I think you will find that none of it is as bad as you remembered—because this time you get to go in scheduled, planned and well rested.
Pregnancy brain is going to help you. How? you may ask?
Simple…tomorrow you are going to forget that the baby has to come out.
OoOoOOO pretty shiny object!
That photo reminds me of Sarah Silverman taking a drive with her cough syrup. Awesome.
I can’t really say anything about a c-section but I can commiserate on the pregnancy brain thing. I had to go back to the video store twice because I forgot to put the dvd in the case and then because I forgot the other movie. I keep meaning to call and change an appointment and then I sneeze/ David cries/ a light flashes and I don’t remember my name anymore.
I just can’t wait for the psycho dreams to start. (please note sarcasm)
I am one of those women who had a horrible labor and eventual emergency section with my first. I had an induction and a VBAC with my second and amazingly actually pushed out my 10.5 lb. guy. He got stuck at one point, I tore A LOT and needed many stitches, and I remember telling my OB, “Never again. I am getting a scheduled c-section if we have a third.” And I meant it! I think you’re making the right decision.
Starshine makes me giggle.
I almost burned my house down from pregancy brain once…..not good. But I think you’re a lot smarter than me, so no worries.
I never had a c-section, I bow before anyone who has. My first son was a 9 pounder (please keep in mind that when I got preg with him, 5 feet tall and 110 pounds…yes, it hurt like hell) and yeah, I tore all the way up to the back of my neck. but then by the fourth baby, they pretty much walked out of my uterus.
So, seriously…you’ll be fine. YOUVE DONE IT BEFORE! No worries girlfriend!!
I’ve had 3 c-sections, it’s really OK.
While the subsequent ones felt a bit more like abdominal surgery than the first one did, the other readers are right, when it’s scheduled, you just go in and do it, it’s done, and, there’s your baby. It doesn’t take long at all, and, you are not quite as exhausted.
jeeze louise…reading about all this baby birthin’ , tears, and stitches makes me want to grab my crouch and an ice pack! OUCH!!
And men thought they had it rough with a kick to the crouch…
I agree. I’ thinking C-section sounds a lot better than a tear. And I appreciate everyone who’s subsequent C-sections went well (MGM mom, poor thing…) and I LOVE the “I was showered and my hair was mostly the same when it was over” because I remember being so out of it one day, three days after labor started (without a shower now) that when the nurse walked in, it could’ve been anyone and I wouldn’t have known, I blurted out at 2AM, “I REALLY WANT A SHOWER.” I didn’t even remember telling her this. She came back later that morning to help me with it. And not in the “chicka chicka bowow” kind of a scene my husband wishes it was. More like floppy used uterus with IV drip taking shower while nurse keeps chords out of the water.
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