For some time now I wanted to do a series about preventing/combating Postpartum Depression. I have a shrink, (gasp, what? You DON’T?! Don’t you know everyone has a shrink? How uncool of you..) that I saw before I even had Baby O. After my last experience, I thought I better have someone in my pocket in case I decided to lock myself in the bathroom and cry for a few hours a day. If you know me, that’s not anything near my normal self and not someplace I needed to visit again.
My (tres hip) shrink had some good things to say. In fact, she gave me five things to work on to help me through the first year of postpartum shifts, otherwise known as hell. These five things have helped immensly and even helped me not need to speak to her. I think she may re-think giving out such good advice since I no longer require her services.
In the course of the next five(ish) posts, I’d like to share with you the five key areas to focus on when adjusting to life after having a baby.* Ready? Here we go.
#1: Social Inter-Action with Adults.
That’s really the end. I mean, you know what to do with that. Social Interact. GO FORTH and meet other parents. Go out with your friends for coffee. Go to lunch/dinner/desert with your husband. Whatever. Just go. Talk. Be around people during the day. Join a mom group. Go to playdates.**
Or, in my case, go forth and make an ass of yourself in front of The Seattle Mom Blog. (And this is where I share with you my experience of Friday night and prove to you why I am, in fact, going forth in front of other people and not just my own family, or my tile in the bathroom. But oh, if I happen to need to lay on my bathroom floor, at least now it will smell like grapefruit.)
Michelle and I went to a Seattle Mom Blog event on Friday night. It was not, in any way, a pushy sells gig, so they said, but was sponsered by Method. These people are brilliant. They provided drinks (in abudnance), free, pretty products and a promise to an environmentally friendly and yummy smelling clean home. They don’t need to push a damn thing. They had me at “Sangria?”
I met Jenny, who I emailed about .3 seconds after
Michelle dropped my drunk ass off gushing over my love for her. I mean, really, if anyone can live up to her fun reputation, it’s her. Really. And then there’s HolaIsabel who I’ve read and pretty much adored for evah (who I will have to go have a drink with soon. I know, I know you are jealous. You should be.) and Working Mom, who is adorable and fun and grabbed those last two drinks with me. And all the people I couldn’t even tell you how much I love that I live in the same city with. Here. In Seattle.
But that’s not all!
No, yours truly not only stared directly at An Ordinary Mom’s boobs (I hear this is a blogher thing to do? I must go next year!) but also had someone shout “alcoholic!” in reference to my drink (so they say).You think this would embarrass lil’ ol me? Oh, hellzno. I proceeded to pick up a man (yes, you heard me.. this is caps worthy, I PICKED UP A MAN) for my friend Nicole and directly BROKE A GLASS (Yes, I’m shouting over your laughter now) whilst talking. That’s right, people. It’s all true. I am THAT good.
To distract you from the farting laugh you are now engaged in, I post pictures. Look! Over here! PICTURES!
(No, I was not paid to do this. Unless you call getting sloppy on organic mixers payment, which I almost do.)
And, here I am, very pleased with the lovely stove-top the Grapefruit All Purpose Cleaner left me. YES. They WORK! And I officially am finished with Soft Scrub.
I am not, however, pleased with the “EXTRA LARGE” tee-shirt that fits just right. This resulted in the weightloss war I set up that starts next Monday. Join us, won’t you?
*This information is given to me by a professional. I do not claim to be a Postpartum Mood Disorder specialist, just a woman who got wacky after her first kid and decided to fight back on the second.
If you’re going to BlogHer, then I wanna be your roomie.
And that tshirt? Wouldn’t fit over the nursing boobs. Moooooooo.
By Dawn S. on 2007 10 15
I am not really dealing with postpartum in the same way, but I think this series might really help me too. Thanks so much.
By YSP on 2007 10 15
I was just thinking how way skinny you look in the pictures! Those shirts must run small.
By Renee on 2007 10 15
I totally heart Method. It rules!
By Mrs. Mustard on 2007 10 15
GREAT NEWS…YOU ARE NOT FAT! I so totally dug the tee that I went on over to the Method site to try and score one. Apparently, the “women’s sizes run approximately one to two sizes smaller than normal shirts.” What assholery. I too would wear the XL if it weren’t for lactation. They don’t make shirts big enough to hold my milky jublies. Sweet A/B cups, whilst thou e’re again be mine?
By Kate on 2007 10 15
Yeah, well at least your shirt actually has room in the mid-section. I look like I’m wearing saran wrap. At least it’s cute.
This was a great re-cap! You rock!
By Carrie on 2007 10 15
It was so awesome to meet you! Also, I kissed my Method products and had to hold myself back from an all-out make-out session, even though it wouldn’t be so bad since they’re non-toxic. Though it might be weird.
By hello insomnia on 2007 10 15
You went to a Method party without me?!!! I would have totally faked being a mom in order to go! Since moving a couple weeks ago, I’ve spent enough money in Method products to put my future children through college.
But what I really want to see is you drunk at a Passion/Blush party! Now that would be blog-worthy!
By Paige on 2007 10 15
Yeah…that shirt had to be X-Large in the girls’ department! You look like a medium to me!
I will go and buy Method stuff…since they sell it at Target (my home away from home) and you’ve plugged it so well! How can I get free booze from them in California???
There’s a lot to be said for your advice on PPD. I never got emotional, but I definitely fell into a ‘rut’ with my second one. Adult conversation (other than over the phone) might have greatly improved my mood back then too!
By LeannIAm on 2007 10 15
This is a good thing you’re doing with your PPD posts. We wimmins need to stick together and know we’re not alone!
As for the Seattle momblogger meetup, I’m jealous and feel left out. *pouting.*
By Jennifer on 2007 10 15
Thanks for the PPD info. Very helpful whether you’ve got the blues or not, being at home with a little one can be daunting. Good to remember these things to keep you feeling on top of the game.
By skiplovey on 2007 10 15
By Holly on 2007 10 15
I’m still very upset that I didn’t get to hang out with you on Friday night.
I can’t wait for the next get-together!
(Those American Apparel shirts are horrible for making you think you are big. They are just sized so small. I put up with it because I love them so.)
By Isabel on 2007 10 15
I love the Method Grapefruit cleaner! It smells so good. So do their candles. The daily shower cleaner kicks @$$, too!
By Kate on 2007 10 15
It sounds like you had way too much fun. It’s good that your getting your money’s worth out of therapy. Method cleaners are the best (daily shower cleaner gives me, sadly, some of my greatest joy) and they’re cheapest at Target.
By mrs g on 2007 10 15
I forgive you for the staring !!
I am glad to know I am not the only one who thinks the XL are really an XS.
By An Ordinary Mom on 2007 10 15
I am completely envious of that gathering!
Those products look very cool, especially the grapefruit one.
By Loralee on 2007 10 15
You mean some people don’t have shrinks? I’m still trying to wrap my head around that one.
My problem postpartum was that I knew I should be with other people but was completely anti-social and seized up. The normal me loves going out and interacting with other adults. Post-partum me wants to hide out under the sink. This was one of the hardest things to do but really one of the most important.
I’m glad you took the advice on Friday night!
By daring one on 2007 10 16
My Dear Mrs. Flinger, funny doesn’t even began to describe the coolness that is you. Sooooo much fun!
Um and yeah on the t-shirts. What in the hell was up with the sizing ? It did absolutely nothing for the self confidence…
By Worker Mommy on 2007 10 16
METHODS rules!!!!! I love 7th Generation, too!
By Humor Girl on 2007 10 16