So, yea, I’m not going to BlogHer this year

Jul 25, 2010

It is a purely financial decision, I keep telling myself. One that does not mean I am not loved by dozens of tons of ten people. It is not that I am not wanted, just that I can not, in no way at all, afford New York City right now. Like OMG NEW YORK CITY! Oh, but god, I want to be there.

So very fucking much.

This year it is not in the cards. They layoff, the house(s), the bills, the move. There is no single way I can justify NEW YORK when I’m hoping to hit Leiden and Germany in another month. No way. Just. None.

Even if my mid-life crisis yells at me to JUSTFUCKINGGO.

Which is what it does. Daily.

I was supposed to speak on a panel. I was supposed to BE THERE. I have plans. I have friends. I have… No moniez.


I will have no pictures like these. (TRAGEDY)

Will I be here that weekend? I am not sure yet. Will we throw a FlingHer that weekend? I am not sure yet. Will I ever, literallyfuckingever, know anything before the day it happens? I can not say. But this I know: I will miss you all: My Internet Family. As sad and horribly stalkish at is sounds, I mean it. I love you all, every one of you. YOU who have lived in my computer and hugged me in person: You. I love you dearly and I will miss you.

Especially this year.

Ex Oh Ex Oh, Mrs.Flinger. Always.

**My gal, Jennui suggested, or rather her HUSBAND suggested, this lovely drinking game in which I command, and shall be honored of.


Please, oh please, take photos of you drinking in my honor. Please oh please have a ton of fun and every so often say, “That Mrs. Flinger, boy, sure wish SHE was here. She’d totally snort right now.” And please oh please don’t forget me when you come home. I’ll be right here. Right.Fucking.Here.


  1. Well. That’s just balls.

    By Joelle on 2010 07 25

  2. Damn. I was hoping for a few in-person snorts, AT LEAST. But I hear ya, money is king sometimes. I will DEFINITELY be partaking in the drinking game & thinking of you often. ((HUGS))

    By Maura on 2010 07 25

  3. This I know… blogher will not be the same without flinger! Who will lick people? I mean come ON!
    If you schedule a flingher event, be sure to let me know!

    By bananas on 2010 07 25

  4. We’ll miss you too!

    By Annie @ PhD in Parenting on 2010 07 25

  5. you people, sob. XO

    By Mrs. Flinger on 2010 07 25

  6. Oh no!!!
    Seriously. I do understand. My husband is finally employed again after being laid-off in March.
    If he hadn’t found the new job? I couldn’t go either.  The ticket was paid for with miles.  The rest of the stuff is as ‘budget friendly’ as I can make it.
    I will not be the one eating out unless it’s footed by some company.

    But I hatehatehate that you have to make this call. Mostly for purely selfish reasons. I wish you would be there.  But also because I know how close I came to having to make that call myself.

    Hang in there baby.  I’ll drink to you. (((hug)))

    Maybe we can start a ‘virtual foursquare venue’ called Ms. Flinger’s Virtual BlogHer Party and get our gals to check in there! smile

    By Lucretia Pruitt on 2010 07 25

  7. I’m not going either. Again. It could be ignorance is bliss, because I’ve NEVER gone to BlogHer, but eh, I’m not really that upset about it.

    Also, reverse snobbery helps.

    By Heather, Queen of Shake Shake on 2010 07 25

  8. A Flingerless BlogHer… that ain’t no BlogHer at all. Now I’ll have to spend the whole time drunk, just to forget my pain.

    By palinode on 2010 07 25

  9. That’s my boy. wink

    By Mrs. Flinger on 2010 07 25

  10. I’ll be Flingering in St. Louis that weekend. FLINGER!!!

    By Angela on 2010 07 25

  11. There will be drinks in honor of both Flinger AND VDog. It just won’t be the same without you beeshes.

    By cindy w on 2010 07 25

  12. I’m not going either (I’m beyond bummed!!) and I will miss you dearly. We can have our own Twitter FlingHer party!!!


    By AmazingGreis on 2010 07 25

  13. I’d like to point out that I had no idea you weren’t coming this year until I was on our panel’s conference call and you didn’t show up.  I was left there, the only one saying inappropriate things.

    That meant I had to say twice as many inappropriate things for the both of us.

    I will get kicked out of BlogHer without you, is what I’m saying.

    Damn you, Leslie.  I already miss you.

    By Megan {Velveteen Mind} on 2010 07 25

  14. Man, budgeting responsibly really, really sucks.  I’ll miss you. My budgeting plan includes eating PB&J for lunch everyday I’m in NY. If your plans change, I’m happy to make you a sandwich.

    By Clair on 2010 07 25

  15. As someone who adores you and is in a few of those photos up there, I AM SAD.

    But I get it. I do. And I will do my best to make you feel included. xoxo

    By Angella on 2010 07 25

  16. I too:
    -am not going to BlogHer
    -because I have no monies
    -live in Seattle
    -would love to do a FlingHer instead!

    Booze. Waterfront. Going to be 80 and sunny all week.  The peeps going to BlogHer would be jealous of us!:)

    By Kisha Floren on 2010 07 26

  17. Mark knew I was so sad to find you weren’t coming to blogher. Your smile will make bloghercon shine a little less bright. I WILL yell FLINGER and drink in your honour, as well as @Vdog and others that are beloved and missing. I love and curse the interwebs and blogher for allowing me the privilege to meet and create affection and attachment to people I get to see so infrequently. So. FLINGER and drink up ladies.


    By jenB on 2010 07 26

  18. Sadness…
    Will definitely do a shot in your honor while I’m there. I mean, it would be just WRONG not to!

    By Colleen - Mommy Always Wins on 2010 07 26

  19. I will kiss SOMETHING and pronounce it FLINGER, so help me god.

    By schmutzie on 2010 07 28

  20. Well, DAYUM, whose ass am I going to slap NOW?!?!?  FLINGER!!! [just testing]  Missing you, already.

    By Liz@thisfullhouse on 2010 07 29