You remember when you were about to give birth (or not, if you’ve never done so) but you had this knowledge, deep deep in the pits of your soul that your life would never ever be the same? You know how you think of having children and think, “Ya ya, there is going to be a lot more Elmo. A lot more spills and poop and small things.” And you know how the people tell you to enjoy your life before you have kids because it’ll never be the same?
I was an antisocial homebody before and I am now, so kids really haven’t changed me other than I don’t have to go out to a job 5 days a week, woot
By Sarah on 2006 04 22
Sometimes I miss my pre-mama self but I was a self absorbed little beotch at times who had no inkling what being a mother was about. Motherhood changes you to your core that’s for sure. It sounds like the geekoutfest was great for you and reminded you of the things you love doing that don’t have anything to do with poop and pacifiers and I think that makes you a better person (and ultimately better mama.)
By Jamie on 2006 04 22
Sometimes, yes I wish I was carefree again. When that to die for job offer came, but I couldn’t take it for the risks to the baby, yeah it hit me then that I won’t ever be the same again.
By dizzymizzy on 2006 04 23
I miss my former self too. Mostly when I realize all the things I could have done before having kids. But I do love my life now, and I wouldn’t change it, except for I’d add a few more mommy breaks here and there.
By sarahgrace on 2006 04 23
I’m with Sarah - I can stay in the house for days on end. For my 21st birthday I went through the drive-thru at Arby’s. And it so happens that I was in college (in quite a college town), it was Friday, and my birthday happens to be Cinco de Mayo. Yeah.
At least I have my memories of dating 3 guys at once before I settled on dh. That was an interesting time.
By lanna on 2006 04 23
I sometimes have trouble remembering the pre-baby me. It seems so long ago. I don’t think anyone, even daddies, understand what it means to have a moment like you were able to enjoy this weekend. I’m quite envious, but at the same time I look at my little girl and know that I would never, ever want to go back.
By Charla on 2006 04 23
The pre-momhood days sure were different. We went out to eat all the time. And had more disposable income & time to ourselves. It’s all worth it though… especially when you realize that everything is just temporary.
By Marie on 2006 04 24
We all “miss me” back in the day, at least a little bit but at the same time, there a great amount of safety to do so, because none of us can ever go back. At least not until I build that little panasonic teleportation time machine thingy.
By texasbelle on 2006 04 24
I miss my carefree self. “sure I can grab dinner with you tonight” and “of course I’ve seen that movie” and a body that I actually liked shopping for clothes for. But then Liam puts on his plaid bucket hat and I promptly forget it again. But I think it’s good to have those wants. Because someday they won’t need us as much. And we need to have ourselves to fall back on.
By Susie on 2006 04 24
I miss the spontanaity of pre-kid life. We just to go backpacking/camping all the time without much planning and without a destination. These days? We attempted a camping trip last summer- after packing way too much kid stuff, our daughter got night terrors and screamed bloody murder randomly throughout the night!
Sometimes I regret not traveling much before having kids, but referring to one of your old posts, I am happy in the place that I’m in.
By Amy on 2006 04 24
Someone please tell me about these “pre-baby” days ya’ll talk about! I don’t remember nor lived them since Mr. B came a little early. Now “pre-boyfriend/hubby” phase. That I miss sometimes!!!
By Nicole on 2006 04 25
Amy, I think we tried camping last summer and gave up. Backpacking? BUHAHAHAHAHA. As if.
Something I never thought of, did you know you can’t take a toddler kayaking? Really. There goes that.
By Mrs. Flinger on 2006 04 25
I don’t miss pre-mom me. But sometimes I do feel like I’m missing out on an adventure. To like, take off to Europe for a year or join the peace corp or something. (Sigh) those days are gone. Responsibility is here.But life is still good. It’s just as it should be.
By candice on 2006 05 04
I missed this one! I was in Hong Kong. Sorry.
Hey! I know it’s not the same; it’s not as simple as you thought because now you have much, much more
the things that you wish for: the cabin in the woods, kayak all day… I see these all will happen; it may not be right now… but sometime, sometime in the future! It maybe in the near future too! You never know
By Kerry on 2006 05 24