• Stacey
    October 28, 2010

    Yes to all of this. Good thing our kids will continue to love us even if we don’t always know it all. That saves me every time I want to freak the eff out because this juggling thing is hard!

    P.S Happy Birthday, baby!
    PPS - you’re younger than me so that’s gotta make you feel good.
    PPPS - Where da party at ?


  • October 28, 2010

    It’s not easy! I have a 22 yr old daughter and felt guilty ALL THE TIME! I work a full time plus OT job and I love what I do and I get paid well. Furthermore, we could have never paid our bills or survived on my husband’s income alone. STILL, I felt guilty when I wasn’t there when I felt I should be. We really CAN’T do it all WELL
    if we spread ourselves too thin….but we CAN do our best and juggle our time as best as we can and hope our career survives and our children turn out ok. It is tough. You are doing the best you can….give yourself a break.

  • October 28, 2010

    Happy Birthday; Love, Mom and Dad

  • Brenda
    October 28, 2010

    you aren’t alone.  I went back to last spring at the age of 40.  I’m going for a degree in Family & Consumer Sciences with a minor in psychology.  Not exactly sure what I’m going to do with it but I’m finally doing something I want to do!
    Hope you have a very Happy Birthday!

  • October 28, 2010

    Happy Birthday, love.

    I love you, your beautiful imperfections, your perfect beauty and your beautiful realizations.

  • October 28, 2010

    Happy birthday! As a woman a few years older, take comfort in the fact that I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up either!! wink

  • October 29, 2010

    Great post!  My litmus test is doing something even if the person couldn’t be paid, because it makes their heart sing.  For me it’s teaching a child to read, even though I’d move into a box stall to be near horses.  It’s good to have many things you love to do.  Crucial for high IQ types, which clearly you are.

  • October 29, 2010

    You are definitely not alone. Balancing the two is common discussion for men as well. I love my kids but my sanity as a adult needs the time I spend at work.

    35? that aint nothin. try 36… now THAT is a year… wink

  • Angela
    October 29, 2010

    Mrs F. I had the same thoughts when I was 35. 15 years later and I’m glad I was a working mum. My kids are now two of the loveliest young 19 and 22 year old guys you could ever meet. (I’m allowed to say that, I’m their mother!). However I do believe it!
    If you’re not happy they won’t be happy. So what ever makes you happy is in their best interests; unless your a drug snorting waste of space…..which I know you’re not.

    MRS F I know you’re a good mum. Now go out and have a great Birthday and enjoy watching them grow up! Don’t waste a minute of it.


  • October 29, 2010

    Happy Birthday Leslie (almost the same age as me!) wink

  • Wendy
    October 29, 2010

    Happy Birthday!  You’re an inspiration to many around you…me, for instance.  Had a similar convo with a grandma at preschool the other day about working versus staying at home.  Do whatever will make you happy!  Have a birthday drink - and it’s Friday so you can start early.

  • October 29, 2010

    Happy Birthday! What you’re feeling and experiencing is perfectly normal. If you’re not questioning what you’re doing and how you’re doing it, you’re brain dead. wink I’m kidding but you know what I mean. It’s a sign of an active mind and a will to always be and do better. Balance is such a struggle in life and if you do find it, it only lasts until the next thing shifts or throws a monkey wrench into things. Enjoy where you are now and never stop being YOU!

  • October 29, 2010

    On this date, I gave birth to our first born. She is an amazing young woman who goes by the name of Mrs. Flinger.

    Happy Birthday.
    Love, your mom and dad.

  • October 29, 2010

    It won’t help that I am 42 and have no idea what I want to be when I grow up will it? No, of course not.  Be happy where you are…the dreams about what to do and be will come again.
    Love your blog. Glad I was sent to find it with a Love Bomb!

  • October 30, 2010

    Happy belated birthday girl (and you are STILL a girl since you’re still in your damn 30s!!!) smile

    Love ya…

    p.s. I still don’t know what the hell I want to be when I grow up and I still don’t know what the hell I am doing as a mom 1/2 the time. WHEEEEE!

  • October 30, 2010

    Oh yes, in regards to your title and I know this will be TMI; you were made in Oberammergau in the Bavaria mountains south of Munich. O"gau as it is called is where the Passion Play is hosted but in between times, it is a beautiful place to visit, camp, stay for the weekends, etc. The first time we ever went, I woke up to yodeling. It was the sound of music but in real life; so perfect.

  • October 31, 2010

    Pretty sure we just need to meditate. #snort

  • Al_Pal
    November 2, 2010

    It is *totally* The Flow. Not too new-agey for me. LOL.

    Happy Birthday, Flinger! smile

  • November 5, 2010

    Way late and a few dollars short of course!
    Belated Happy Birthday Mrs. F!!

    Who said we had to grow up?

    At 44, I take as my role models some amazing women - who never stopped reinventing themselves.  Who, in their 90’s are pretty sure that yes, you can have it all and that they are proof.
    I know more than one.

    The part where someone tells you that you are “sacrificing” one thing for another? It implies that you aren’t getting that thing.  Not true.  It just means you need to work on your balance.

    I sadly know one too many “stay-at-home moms” who really aren’t very good moms.  They may not have a job - but they don’t take that extra time & energy and focus it into raising their kids.  Computer games, blogs, soap operas, running a thousand errands - there’s one who lives by me whose children see me more than their mom.  But she ‘stayed home for the children’.  There are others who work who do seem to be the uberWoman we’d all love to be.  Executives with fulfilling work lives, still at home every night, leading the brownie troop, and there for every school play, soccer game, and bruised knee. (Yes, I know her and she’s nice to boot so I can’t hate her.)

    What I’m saying is “find your balanace, hon” - you can totally do this.  Just don’t let other peoples’ lives fool you.  The package from the outside is not the entirety.

    And remember: the only real important view? is from the kiddos in your own back seat. smile

    Happy Birthday!

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