“This hurts me more than it hurts you”

11/Jan/2008

I don’t know if it’s in the Mom code, but my mother used to say this line to me in the midst of punishing me, usually via spanking, as I cried. “This hurts me more than it hurts you.” I remember thinking, “Oh yea, lady? Bend over and let’s find out.”

Today I took away LB’s first “privilege”.  After walking over the umpteenth book and seeing the pages ripped laying strewn all over the floor, I sat down and quietly said, “LB, why do you hate your books so much? You are always ripping them.” She looks concerned, baffled, (as if she has never seen a ripped page and didn’t JUST tear it out a few minutes ago… Me? She looks lost..) and says to me “Ok, I won’t do it anymore.” This is about the billionth time she’s said that.

“This is about the billionth time you’ve said that,” I repeat to her. “No more TV today because you keep ripping your books. Turn off Sesame Street right now.”

She does.

Crap.

Now what?

Now, for the remainder of the afternoon, I get to entertain my preschooler. And today, for the first time, I think to myself, “This hurts me more than it hurts you.”

this was good

(This has nothing to do with the post, I just wanted to show you that I cooked. And lo, it was good. You know, for the record.)

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Comments

  1. Oh yea, I hate when Shortman gets punished (usually no computer time) because then he’s just THERE all the time.  Did I mention he’s 6’3” and he’s 16? 

    Sigh.  They only get harder to entertain honey.

    By Ree on 2008 01 11

  2. I just had to chuckle because my little one has been, let’s say filled with the Evil Ghost as of late It, as you know, is very hard to reason with a 20 month old. So, I had to use the, “you are going to bed right now if you don’t listen to me”. Well, I put her to bed at 5:00 PM and I’ll be saying “It hurts me more than it hurts you” when she is up at 3:00 in the morning and I pretend to be asleep so that my husband can get her. LOL.

    By KristinaB on 2008 01 11

  3. It’s hard to punish them, isn’t it?

    I don’t like the news from Ree, that it only gets harder. No no no no no! smile

    By Occidental Girl on 2008 01 11

  4. I know what you mean. If we get to the point of punishment (which is rare because I’m lazy) it has to be short term for exactly that reason! It can’t make it harder on me else everyone is grumpy all day, and that’s no good!

    By Carrie on 2008 01 11

  5. Yep, that’s become one of my rules with discipline now…not to say anything I really don’t want to do, because you have to follow through-otherwise nothing works!  Ha ha!

    By sarahgrace on 2008 01 11

  6. Oh, have missed you! end of year was so stressful for me, and I ceased reading blogs for a while. BOOOO for that.

    We screwed ourselves for this weekend, too, with the taking away of TV. Damn, now WE have to entertain him! Stupid Rookie mistake. (We’re STILL rookies!)

    By el-e-e on 2008 01 11

  7. That happened to me just today.
    It hurts me.  Tons.

    I cooked for my family today, too. 
    It has been MUCH too long since they’ve seen a homecooked meal. Ug.

    By Loralee on 2008 01 11

  8. I TOTALLY know what you mean.

    By Aimee Greeblemonkey on 2008 01 11

  9. Aww ... Did she/you learn a lesson? grin

    By mdvelazquez on 2008 01 12

  10. Guh, I’ve just started having to deal with the naughty,

    By Dawn S. on 2008 01 12

  11. It sounds like we are doing the same thing.  Part of me wants to slap the Pooper’s rear-end, but then the other part knows that it really doesn’t accomplish much and makes me feel like shit, so we have seriously been taking the toys away.  Although, taking away Cinderella II could probably pull some weight around here.

    So it begins, eh?

    By Traci on 2008 01 12

  12. I hate to break it to you, but whenever you take something away from them, they punish you ten fold.

    This is why god invented cocktail hour.

    By Friglet on 2008 01 12

  13. LOL! This is the funniest thing I’ve read in a long time. Oh, the irony.

    So THAT’S what they meant! I knew it wasn’t that they were missing the sensation of the wooden spoon smacking their bottoms…

    By Laura on 2008 01 12

  14. I know! Sometimes I feel like I’m punishing myself instead of him. There has to be a way to make it work out completely in our favor!
    On another note…are you going to share the code for the Mother F.U.C.K.E.R. button?!  Pretty Please?

    By AMomTwoBoys on 2008 01 12

  15. Boy is that the truth! My parents used to complain that they hates grounding us because that essentially grounded them too. Only in the last year or so in dealing with my own children have I begun to understand what they were talking about.

    At least you’ll hopefully have intact books from this day forward! Good luck.

    By Mrs. Staff Sergeant on 2008 01 12

  16. Boy is that the truth! My parents used to complain that they hated grounding us because that essentially grounded them too. Only in the last year or so in dealing with my own children have I begun to understand what they were talking about.

    At least you’ll hopefully have intact books from this day forward! Good luck.

    By Mrs. Staff Sergeant on 2008 01 12

  17. I’ve found that what works well is to punish by taking away things you never intended on giving them. For example, “Too bad you ripped that book because now I’m not going to give you that hundred dollar bill to spend anyway you like at the candy store.”

    By Megan on 2008 01 12

  18. That picture at the bottom was so appropriate, indeed! wink funnee!

    I don’t think my mom ever said that to me. But, I know what it feels like. My little girl SCREAMS when I discipline her—and it hurts my ears…. wink

    By Haley-O on 2008 01 12

  19. I had the same issue with punishment this weekend.  I had tons to do, so Bones having a friend over was a great idea.  He would be occupied, so I could get things done.  But then he got stuck in a big ol’ pile of poo with his teacher this weeke and I had to punish him.  And listen to - “I’m bored”, “What can I do”, etc, etc, etc - all weekend

    By The Autumn Dahlia on 2008 01 14

  20. I had to come back here and tell you I was thinking about you all day Saturday when we had to have a “No Shrek” day because Little Miss had decided to throw a giant fit in the middle of the night - and our deal is - sleep good all night and you can watch Shrek tomorrow.  Well, needless to say we had no TV at all on Saturday and while the begging and whining were almost enought to make me want to run far, far away, it actually ended up being a great day full of fun activities.  I almost caved though, but I’m stubborn and held my ground.

    Anyway, made me think of you.

    How did it end up going?

    By Andy on 2008 01 14