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  • March 7, 2006

    And the sucky thing is that no one talks about how it hits your marriage.  If you are even considering a second child, I strongly suggest you and your hubby take a good look at your marriage and decide if it can take another kid.  DD#2 nearly did us in…But amazingly the smoke starts to clear and you remember that there is another human in the room you chose to marry. (which lead to DD#3!) smile

    It just takes a helluva lot of time to adjust and realize you are a skin full of emotions (both good and bad) and that he is too.

  • March 7, 2006

    OH, Starshine, that’s awesome.

    It just takes a helluva lot of time to adjust and realize you are a skin full of emotions (both good and bad) and that he is too.

    Amen, girl. Amen.

  • March 7, 2006

    I hear you. It’s really hard to be a mom, wife, worker-bee, etc etc etc. And to do it all well. I feel like I put the most effort into being a good mommy, which isn’t good for the marriage. After 2 years of mommying, I’m wondering how can ANYONE do it all & do it well? Seems dang near impossible. There are only so many hours in a day, & there’s only so much energy to go around.

    Reading this reminds me that I need to plan a date night with hubby.

  • texasbelle
    March 7, 2006

    date night? HAHA…those went out the window pretty much after Emma was born because very few people want to take on both our hellions at the same time. I totally agree with you about those freaks who get knocked up to save their marriage. It’s just ludicrous.Staying married is about as difficult as raising children. No matter how in love you are, it’s just hard. good post, les.

  • March 7, 2006

    Great, great post. People buy you binkies, bibs, and blankies but no one tells you that becoming a parent alters your marriage and it also changes you as an individual. It’s so tough to find a balance between good mommy/good wife, etc. (and tiring) And, from personal experience, if your husband starts a small business AND you have two babies within four years expect some crazy stress! smile

  • March 7, 2006

    I just kept nodding throughout your post.  And sex?  Ha.  Just barely enough to get me knocked up again.  We figure we’ll hit our stride again in that department in about 5-6 years.  But until then, we get mad at each other and make up as needed.  smile

  • March 7, 2006

    Nobody says it like you babe.  True love is cleaning up someone’s shit!!!!

  • March 7, 2006

    Baby number two does affect you more in the babysitting dept. and the stress levels. I got into a HUGE fight with my husband last night. Because I am trying to do it ALL….be the perfect mom, the perfect wife, the supah clean house and always get dressed and “done” up for the day. And then I’m mad when Nick doesn’t verbalize how he notices all this. I know he does notice. And definately me screaming for appreciation is the exact way to NOT get it. Humph.

  • March 7, 2006

    So nicely said Les.  Every day we struggle to add additional facets into our everyday lives; love, spouse, career, child, etc.  Some how and some way we make it.  Through blogs, mommy groups, friends and families we find motivation and inspiration to continue and to not fall into the ditches associated with life. 

    Everything you have said is everything that we feel.

  • Amy_M
    March 7, 2006

    All of the above!

  • March 7, 2006

    It definelty changes a major. We’ve never fought so much over trival things till we had kids. As for the sex? Yeah, the kids didn’t ruin that so much as buying a house did. I’m so beyond stressed with this place and my expectations for what I always “dreamded” of doing to a home *I* owned that I’ve been in no mood for the lovin’. Dh must feel like he’s in a new relationship though, with the girl who’s holding out on all the way, cause I just have the enrgy for “drop your shorts, orals quicker.”

  • March 7, 2006

    Ok, Sara, I read your response and peed a little.  Ok alot.  Oral’s quicker.  I will remember that.

    Ok, still laughing.

  • March 7, 2006

    LOL Sarah. omygah that is the motto in my house too. The thing is, he’s always thanking me for being so good to him afterwards, and the truth is I just want him to quit hounding me, I am SO not in the mood.

  • March 7, 2006

    LOL Sarah. omygah that is the motto in my house too. The thing is, he’s always thanking me for being so good to him afterwards, and the truth is I just want him to quit hounding me, I am SO not in the mood.

  • March 7, 2006

    ROFL @ y’all. Taking notes, “Oral’s quicker.”  Damn, I love y’all.

  • March 8, 2006

    My dh and I just recently went to a marriage conference wherein the following was said from a mother to a daughter, “Honey, why would you deprive him (your husband) or something that is so easy, takes so little time, and makes him so happy?”

    LOL!

    Oh, and if you’re interested in the marriage conference at all…www.loveandrespect.com (jic)

  • March 10, 2006

    My goal? Start out as a crappy wife so when I become a crappy mom, my husband can’t complain.

    I see no flaws.

    I’m extremly, extremly lucky when it comes to my husband. He has already 5 children from 3 different exes…. long long long long long long long story and right now, he only has 1 9 year old. He’s been through the screaming and crying, the emotional wreck of a woman after birth and believe me, those other women were PSYCHOS.

    I’m still sticking to my plan. Dinner? HA. Clean the house? In your dreams pal. Remember to have sex? Can you remind him please?

  • March 18, 2006

    I usually get the mak-eup sex, but would often rather the make-up clean house! How do I convery him hmmmm?

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